Why do shitty things all happen at once?

[DrDeath]

I'm feeling really really overwhelmed lately. I just don't know what to do / how to help myself. It seems everything around me is falling apart and I'm next. It's making me feel so so down. Everything and I mean every single thing in my life- there's a problem. I've started to get insomnia and am in a constant state of knackeredness. I just feel liking running away and be able to just breathe.

Breathe. What tiny thing can you take control of?

I often feel like this too OP, all the shit seems to come at once. I think the problems attract one another

Are they problems that can be solved or is it something like an illness that you have no control over? Write all the solvable problems down to get them out of your head then try and tackle it one problem at a time.

@DrDeath can appreciate exactly how you feel - I have to sell my house this summer to downsize following the end of the financial order agreement with exH post divorce. The sheer enormity of the task of tarting the house up, getting furniture sorted, clearing cupboards etc then getting a deep clean done ready for estate agents not to mention possible viewings as well as finding somewhere else to live is like the biggest mountain in the world and i'm putting off even the smallest thing. Add to that work pressure and worry about adult kids at uni plus concern about parents as well as boyfriend under stress and I just want the world to stop so I can get off!!

I have written down the jobs I need to do and some are being crossed off the list - hopefully I can get a weekend to myself sometime soon so I can get cracking on the bigger jobs . Lists are good though!!!

This was me last year. I swear some one put a curse on me. I had 8 months of hell. Was the worst period of my life. At one point I even thought my energy was drawing bad luck and started doing positive thinking shit.

It passed.

Yours will too

I feel you. I've just had a major organ removed which has life long implications and will be life limiting. The day after the op, while still in ICU, my mum was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and given only a matter of months. It's overwhelming at times.

Thanks for you're replies. Normally I'm so frazzled, stressed and running around like a headless chicken but the last few days I just feel numb, like a robot. Just getting on with life. My baby did something cute and I smiled at her and when I did, I realised that I haven't smiled in days. I'm running on autopilot.

Walnutwhipster so sorry about your mum and what you're going through. Life really has shit timing sometimes.

You're not alone @DrDeath
I think as parents we find ourselves just ticking along because if we stop and consider the amount of stress in our lives it would overwhelm us. We aren't machines though and it does catch up with you. And then it seems everything is happening at once- it's not, it's just as sh1tty as before, only you're too mentally exhausted to deal with it. It passes. And it will happen again. I find that when I end up like this, writing everything down-what's wrong with me, what's going wrong, what has to be done etc every little thought that drags me down, and working through them for what I can change, what is REALLY actually a problem makes it a lot easier. I was here a couple of weeks ago, completely frazzled, brain fog, not even miserable, just numb- now I'm back to me again. Sending hugs x

autopilotmomma you know i think you're right. I am mentally exhausted and my mental reserves have depleted. I am exhausted. does it ever get any better?

I fee exactly the same. Completely overwhelmed.

And I think about things such as have happened to Walnut and know that I have it easy.

But I’m still not able to get a handle on things. I wish I knew what to do.

I have gone through cycles like that.

I try to find something to have a positive impact - however small:

Eat a proper meal (as healthy as I can make it - but even just a proper meal sometimes was a positive step).

Try and eat some fruit or drink a glass of water.

Go for a walk with a good view.

Just take 10 minutes in a quiet room and do some deep breathing.
Play some uplifting or enjoyable music while I do some housework.

Take each different issue one step at a time.

And slowly, as you take one small bite off different cherries at a time, you will see improvements and things start to fall into place.

And then you can focus more energy onto another cherry of a problem.....

Yup, I’m feeling it today. My sister has terminal cancer, this means another family member who raped me is back in our lives. I miss my ex, I am financially up shit creek, Ds dad has stopped paying maintenance, and today I got TWO parking tickets, it’s never ending and I just want to run away.

Sorry, not the positive reply you needed - but you aren’t alone. Meditation is helping me sleep at night, and sleeping tablets when that doesn’t work! Agree about small steps of self care, make a meal, have a bath, get an early night. Sending love

@DrDeath don't beat yourself up over things either. Füç¥ the tidying, füç¥ the hoovering and füç¥ the washing up. It's ok to just make it through the day sometimes. Sleep if you need to sleep, lie in your pjs all day, order dinner in...whatever you need to do to allow you to just switch off and recharge, do it. Sometimes self care is doing absolutely sod all and just being a deflated mess-so long as you then start to pull yourself gradually back to being you xxx