I’ve never posted on any forums before so please be gentle
I have been with my oh for about a year and we are looking to move in together. He has 3 kids. Two with his ex and a step daughter that his ex left with him.
Ex is unreliable at best. My oh and kids suffered abuse verbal emotional and physical for years. Possibility ex is taking drugs and regular drinker. Has kids when it suits arranged thru step daughter. Now ex is kicking up fuss cos we’re moving
Sd was happy but now brainwashed into not wanting to move with us by ex as she thinks the kids can’t be split.
Ex is not mentally well (not just me hating the ex) on medication etc. Sd bio dad lives in US in contact with sd and has a new family too. Aware of situation sd living with oh. Happy until now cos sd said she doesn’t want to move
Anyway do me and my oh have a duty of care to continue to provide a home for sd? We have really tried but she is getting increasingly violent and causing real issues within the family. She can’t live with mom and dad is in another country. What do we do? Would love to have her as part of the family so long as she wants to be. Don’t want to live with resentment and hostility fir years replacing one abuser for another