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Internet dating, really connect over text but not face to face

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CrapTVAddict · 08/05/2019 22:30

Ok has anyone had this or offer any advice?
Met someone on a dating app.
We really connected through text for weeks before we met.
We met and it was a bit awkward and I didn't feel as connected and he felt the same I think
Afterwards we reconnected and we are becoming very close. We text every day and not just once or twice and talked about meeting again but now I'm scared it will be like last time and not how we are over text.
How can we be so connected through text and I don't mean flirting by text I mean we talk about everything but it is awkward in person?
I'm now nervous to meet him again. Has anyone had this happen? Does this mean we are destined to be friends only?

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Yourenotheonlycuddlytoy · 08/05/2019 22:31

Try going out again, do something that doesn’t require too much interaction like the cinema. You’re both nervous, you have to get used to being physically together. It’s much easier to be relaxed and funny via a phone.

titchy · 08/05/2019 22:33

Do you talk on the phone? Maybe try that.

CrapTVAddict · 08/05/2019 22:34

I think I'm worse talking to people over the phone than face to face

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Kiwiinkits · 09/05/2019 00:49

We really connected through text for weeks before we met
So you basically didn't leave room for any excitement? I think texting is a terrible way to start a relationship.

KatyN · 09/05/2019 06:55

It took 4 dates with my now husband before we clicked. I was just ridiculously nervous in person.

mylittlenugget · 09/05/2019 06:59

My first date with my partner we didn't even talk to each other. We'd been texting for months and really liked each other but we agreed to meet up with friends instead of alone and felt too awkward to say anything to each other. We were both certain the other one would text afterwards say they didn't think it was worth it but we both felt like something was there and now we've been together five years and expecting our first child.

MostIneptThatEverStepped · 09/05/2019 07:06

Having gathered a lot of personal experience in this field, I think what happens is you develop feelings for the persona that you're texting, with a lot of gaps filled in by your imagination and a bit of wishful thinking.

When you meet it's a bit of a shock because the reality is not the same as this perfect person you were texting non stop. You might even feel the need to get your phone out and text that other, imaginary person because you miss them!

Then after you meet it's easier to slip back into texting with the safe version of them. Or you regretfully end it because that's the better thing to do.

Not saying it's definitely that OP but worth a thought.

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