my wee girl plays up going into nursery

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Hi all,

i need some advice, my wee girl is turning 4 and it is almost the end of the nursery term and she still clings to me when i bring her into nursery.

I explain to her every morning what her daily routine is, and that mummy will give her kisses, cuddles high fives etc before she goes into class like a big girl. I refused for a while to go into the class as it was taking 5 minutes for me to get out. but lately she pulls me in or hides behind me and refuses to go in unless i take her.

the teacher tries to distract her with all sorts of fun things, sometimes it work but this morning it did not. It toke the teacher and classroom assistant to forcefully distract her while I left, her cries broke my heart.

this has been happening from the start of the year and I thought it was just a new thing as offically she had just started, she can also be socially backward (not meaning this in a bad way) with her first interactions with her friends and even her cousins, who she loves spending time with but it could take her 5-10mins before letting go of me and breaking a breathe to them.

Anyway, can anyone please give me advice or techniques I could try?

I have tried a star chart, mostly for school but included other things also, this made a small amount of improvement but I just feel we are 10 steps back now.

No advice sadly, just solidarity. My 5.5 year old is still like this at some drop offs at kindy. He goes in swings and roundabouts with it, sometimes he's fine, sometimes there are tears and screaming. It's awful isn't it!

What is she like once you’ve gone? Often a child will calm down very quickly - but the parent doesn’t get to see this bit. Can you ask the staff how long it takes her to settle after you’ve gone?

Damntheman - its heart wrenching, I wish she would look forward to going.

Oddsock2 - In the past they have told me she is fine once I leave but this morning she was crying which she wouldnt usually do, so Im unsure if she settled quickly or not. I will check with them in the morning, I dont want it to be a negative thing for her

My DS 1 did this for the first year of nursery, and cried every morning before school until the end of primary 2, it was heartbreaking. My ds2 would play up every day before he went to nursery, most days I had to have one of the women physically remove him from me. He is at school now and goes in without a fuss, after a few months of crying at the door. It will pass OP, just something you have to ride out usually.