Looking for tips on how to look after my mental health

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How do you look after your mental health and get yourself back on track?

In the last 6 months, i've experienced the breakdown of a serious relationship which has affected me a lot more than I had ever imagined it would. On top of this, I have a stressful job which is just the pits and my attempts to find something else are coming to nothing and it's all getting me down.

I spend my days at work trying not to burst into tears over the 'situation' ive found myself in and I have this pain... a knot... in my chest that won't go away. I get home from work, give DS(3) his tea and sort out the bits for the following day, put DS to bed and then go to bed myself - usually about 7pm and I flit from being flat out to not being able to sleep because my mind is racing.

I feel very worthless right now - rejected on a number of levels and my self esteem is through the floor. I'm now starting to be quite negative in my thoughts - I'm not getting interviews because im not very good at what i do, i'm going to be stuck here forever etc... and I just don't know what to do.

I've booked a Drs appt. For next week, but im debating cancelling it as im not sure going to the Drs over how im feeling is the right thing to do.

What do I do? How do I get through this?

You absolutely keep that doctors appointment!!
You are allowed to feel overwhelmed and a break up with an already stressful job,becoming a single parent all in six months is a lot of stress
What else can you do?when your son is in bed have a few minutes to yourself to do something for you-a bath,paint toes,read a little,watch a TV show you love etc
We all have an "emotional" battery.you run it down dealing with emotional stuff.self care tops it up and if the battery runs empty you can't expect to keep on top of things!
Do you have support in rl?
Is D's dad still on the scene for him?
It will get easier in time,and if that means talking therapy or some meds to get you over the hump there is no shame in that

The biggest thing for me is sleep. If I get over tired I’m a mess so if you want to go to bed at 7pm then do it.
Definitely see the doctor and try not to look too far ahead. One day at a time x

Here's a little picture (as opposed to big picture) thing that helped me. I found a throw that I could wrap around my shoulders when I finally sat down after a hard day. I pulled it tight around myself like a hug. When I needed a hug. There's loads of big picture stuff that this doesn't tackle. But it often helped a tiny bit in a moment when I needed it.

Thanks both.

I do have rl support - we're living back with my parents whilst I sort out deposits for houses etc and they've been brilliant and DS' dad is still about and has DS 50% of the week. Its usually when DS is with his dad that i start to feel my most worthless - I try to fill my time seeing friends, going to the gym, for a walk, reading, shopping... but at the moment its not quite enough to take my mind off things and the whole thing just feels never ending