Hi, I'm just needing some outside opinion on this topic. My sister has stopped talking to myself and my partner due to a party i am throwing for my husband. To cut a very long story short, my sister and her partner have broken up (have been apart for little while now) and there is a family party happening soon of which my sister ex has been invited to due to him and my husband being very good friends She has decided to stop talking to us as she expects him not to be invited although my partner and her ex have been friends since teenage years before my sister got together with him. It was a tough break up, but she has expressed that he should not have an invite and if he does get invited she will not be coming to the party and neither will the rest of the family. We have been put in a position where we either chose between my sister or my husbands friend. It is not my party and it is my husbands therefore its his decision who is invited but i have taken the brunt of the argument and have been told I am putting her in a terrible situation(said by her) when its not my decision to make wether he is invited or not.
Im just wondering what peoples thoughts are on this if i should be telling my husband he cannot invite his friend to his own party because of my sister or if I should stick with my original opinion and state that its not my choice therefore I wont make him choose between him or her?
Its been really getting to me and my friends have told me I have done the right thing by telling her its not my decision and i will not make my husband chose between the 2 of them but its bothering me now.