Should I give up on playgroups

[meepmoop]

Hi,

I've posted a few times about DS he's 21months old and while he is a very happy and confident boy, he's not good at keeping his hands to himself.

He's a hair puller and I'm not getting anywhere with it. I think he's improving and then he gets worse.

It's mostly when he gets overexcited or annoyed. He loves the big kids and gets excited by then running around and tries to join in.

I've left a play group early today as he was getting over excited and wouldn't leave the other kids alone.

I really like the group and have lots of people I talk to so would really miss it but I'm wondering if I should just give up on it.

I find it frustrating as he will happily share his toys and play nicely next to other kids as long as he's calm. I haven't noticed he is better when the big kids aren't there but I don't know when they're attending

He been hit and had his hair pulled by other kids and couldn't careless so I haven't even got the we'll see how it hurts when someone does it to you.

He goes to nursery one full day a week. On the first day they mentioned he pulled hair but they weren't concerned and I haven't heard anything since.

Help

I wouldn't give up. I've seen many small children lash out when they're excited/angry/frustrated. He's still little and learning. As long as you're consistent in reminding him to use his "nice hands" then I don't see a problem.

He'll soon be bigger and perhaps then he'll be able to understand that if he hits you'll have to leave.

Don't stop going though. It's probably bothering you more than anyone else.

Well I certainly wouldn't give up on the group. Leaving early is a very good way to show that behaviour isn't acceptable and even though it doesn't feel that way now, he will grow out of this.

If you're worried about how you're managing the behaviour, could you ask nursery what they do when he does it? So you're all reacting the same way. That consistency can really help knock these things on the head. Or just ask friends at the group if they've been through it and how they handled it? Almost every parent has dealt with something similar at some point, so you really aren't alone in this.

We had a biting phase. It was rough, I have nothing but sympathy for you.

Even today a 2yo hit my 4yo in the face at a group. Admittedly my DD didn't look pleased but I just told her that the other child is still learning, which they are. Don't let it bother you OP.

Thank you for your replies and reassurance.

It's hard when it just seems to be your child thats wild. I'll ask the nursery how they handle it