Breaking a residency order

[Essexmum12]

I need advice, me and my daughters biological dad have a shared residency order which has been in place since she was 3 (she is now nearly 9) we are in the process of going back to court to have it updated but I have genuine concerns about sending her to him and don’t know what to do. He drinks daily (tried to get her to cross a train line as a short cut when he was drunk with her) he takes her with him drinking, smokes weed around her (she even explained how she knew it was weed not a roll up as he sprinkled green stuff it in.) I’ve contact social services and they just said it is a court matter but in the meantime I can’t keep sending her surely as he is majorly putting her at risk! Any advice?

Record everything, get as much as you can in writing, either email or text.

Stop contact and clearly state that your daughter is at risk due to alcohol and drug use. In writing.

You could contact the police regarding the weed, but unlikely to go anywhere.

Let him take it to court or put in an order yourself, citing parental neglect and safeguarding issues.

At 9 your daughter should be able to clearly give an accurate picture to cafcass or social care who will speak to her about her wishes and feelings. To confirm or deny the allegations.

TL:DR Stop contact and wait for him to take you to court or Put in a court order C100 form. Get as much in writing for evidence as possible.

In every message to him, state clearly that his drug and alcohol misuse is putting her at risk of significant harm, you are happy for contact to be supervised until he is clean and dry.