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Do I report or not?

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Madishmum · 06/05/2019 22:55

During the birth of my 18 year old D I was assaulted by a midwife. It has taken a long time for me to think of it in this way. I have memories of her birth that haunt me. Basically a midwife touched me repeatedly inappropriately. I do not know her name and would find it difficult to identify her. I am however haunted by the fact that I didn’t speak up. If she did this to me I’m sure she will have done it to others. The memories I have of my daughters birth are tainted. Her 18th seems to have brought this again to the fore. Part of me says go to the hospital and tell them. But If i cant identify her what’s the point. My D was my second child and I had no such issues during my first birth. I keep wondering if I am just making more of this and I need to pull myself together But year after year it comes back. I have happy memories of my sons birth. It’s not the same for my D,,

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RaptorWhiskers · 06/05/2019 22:56

I think you should report it. It’ll give you closure even if they can’t identify her.

Passtherioja · 06/05/2019 22:59

I think you need to get counselling (as well as report it) ...it's unfair that your memories of your DD are different than your DS and you need to find a way to move forwards from this- time to report and rebuild

NoughtpercentAPR · 06/05/2019 23:01

But If i cant identify her what’s the point.

The hospital will be able to identify her from your medical records. These things are kept until you die.

RaptorWhiskers · 06/05/2019 23:08

If she’s assaulted others they may already have identified her, possibly even prosecuted her. They may be able to identify her from your records. At the very least your statement should be on file in case anyone else comes forward with a similar report. I agree with the pp who said that counselling would help too.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 06/05/2019 23:30

Flowers. It'll be relatively easy for her to be tracked down.
They'll just need to. refer back to your medical records.

AlwaysCheddar · 07/05/2019 06:06

Won’t it be too late to make a complaint after 18 years? Think the limit is 12 months to file after the incident or being aware.

youarenotkiddingme · 07/05/2019 06:16

Complaints my have a timescale.

Reports of assault don't. Which if she touched you inappropriately and repeatedly then it is.

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