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If I make a profile on POF...

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Notsureaboutonlinedating · 06/05/2019 21:18

And hide it, will people still be able to see I've viewed them?

I want to give online dating a go, I think, but there are a number of creeps who come into work, and in life in general, that I have told I'm married, just because it's easier, so I don't really want to get caught out lying and have to explain why I said I was married.

Any other advice about possibly inline dating, after being single for 2 years would be great.

TIA Flowers

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OogieMcBoogie · 06/05/2019 21:22

Following! I have the same issue, there are a few men at work (really, really not my type) who I know are active online daters and I really don’t want to put a profile up only to have to fend off questions or, worse, offers of a date. The thought of having to deal with that at work completely puts me off!

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Notsureaboutonlinedating · 06/05/2019 21:25

OogieMcBoogie it's horrible. There are certain groups of blokes at my place that just leer and try to chat me (and every other female) up. When they thought I was single it was much worse, but now they think I'm married it has died down. It's put a bit of a damper on my dating life though (as if my face wasn't a damper enough) Grin

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Sourdoughpizza · 06/05/2019 21:33

Just ignore if you are not interested POF is free so not everyone is "serious", lots of winks, heyas, quality of messages were..umm.

I'd join one for 4-6 weeks, message 4-5 guys a time. 3-4 messages max then meet for coffee. No calls before meeting. Safety first. Once you've gone through one site try another. Some people do multiple sites but can't see how you have time! I'd do POF, match then guardian or e harmony,if I were doing again. Also recommend speed dating, it is such a fun evening and helps build confidence. You can go alone and it doesn't matter. I'm getting excited for you writing this!

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Notsureaboutonlinedating · 06/05/2019 21:41

I can ignore the guys online, no problem. It's just in real life a lot of creeps come into work and I can't be bothered getting hit on there.

What do you even say when you're messaging people. I can't flirt, I've been single for 2 years and only fancied one guy in that time, and ran away from him because it looked like something may happen Grin

I'm happy, and have a great life so don't even know how a bloke would fit into that so not sure I want a relationship, but I don't want to say I'm just looking for fun either.

Speed dating looks really fun, but I really, really cannot flirt at all, last time I tried I started talking about makes of Hoover, and couldn't think what else to say so just carried on, he just looked confused and backed away Grin

Oh god maybe I'm not ready for it yet.

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MonaChopsis · 06/05/2019 21:42

NotSure, I did this and I think it was successful, the only men that messaged me/viewed my profile were people who had already contacted.

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Notsureaboutonlinedating · 06/05/2019 21:47

MonaChopsis so they can see you if you view them? I don't mind that at all, I just want to know whether I can randomly view or if I need to be a little less nosy more choosy.

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Sparklyring · 06/05/2019 22:12

I met my husband on POF!

Sparklyring · 06/05/2019 22:12

Yes they can see, hiding it is hiding people from seeing your profile when looking through profiles.

kerkyra · 06/05/2019 22:25

There is a bit in pof that asks if you want people to know you have viewed their profile. Hope you find it..and good luck dating :)

kerkyra · 06/05/2019 22:38

Go into edit profile,then mail settings and its there

Fairylea · 06/05/2019 22:43

I met my dh on pof 10 years ago Grin

I’m not sure if it still works like this but when I signed up I made my profile stating that I was in a town 25 miles away from where I actually am so I didn’t get local people that I might know finding me. I then went through the local blokes and messaged those I was interested in myself - one of those was dh and I explained that I actually lived in xxx and not yyyy as listed.

Sourdoughpizza · 07/05/2019 17:43

IME/IMO don't try and flirt online, before you've met someone, unless you are supremely confident at it. You don't know how they might take it - some will take it literally, some will not like it. Stick to mutual points of interest. I wouldn't advise a friend or daughter to flirt with a stranger online so that's the mindset (speak from experience).

I think you have to be feeling positive and happy in yourself, also keep up your hobbies. Good luck

S0CKS · 07/05/2019 18:47

Start a profile and put no details route out the people you don't want to contact you and block them then put more details on your profile.
Pof works i met my dh on there.

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