Who else hates FIFA, Fortnite etc?

[xsquared]

They turn usually pleasant DS into the spawn of Satan with his gamer's rage.

He is off thankfully and out with a friend playing football. I want to try and encourage j to do other things that hasn't got anything to do with a screen but they are often rejected. Anyone else has this problem?

I think at the moment, ds just doesn't think it's cool to do things with his family

I understand, it does get harder keeping them engaged.at that age. We usually had the lads'mates with them!
We ' lost ' ours at the age of 16 but by 18/19 they had re-engaged and now either join us again on trips out or are taking their girlfriends hiking and climbing!!!
Keep encouraging activities.
We used to give a or b choices. Eg we are going out in the morning, shall we get some climbing in or do you want to mountain biking in the Howgills?
I'm not saying it worked every time but he had some control on what we did but also knew that he had to do something.
Hopefully it's just a phase he going through! 🤞

"I don't know a 14 year old who would go to Scouts."

Well, there's 1000s of Scouts so, some 14 to boys go to Scouts. Just because you don't know any, doesn't mean it wasn't a valid suggestion.

The OP is allowing her 24 to to claim everything is "boring" and not stick at things.

Scouts only go up to 14 dont they? Then they leave or go to explorers.

Mine was one until 13 but then he got bored of it, it wasnt a great troupe or whatever the word is. There are lots of boys who go on to Explorers and lots for whom it is not their thing. Both equally valid choices. There are different types of 14 year old boys.

I was just thinking about some if the teen lads I work with that's your boys age OP.
a few are into going to Cadets. My lads wasnt interested in that but the boys I know love it and have learned loads of skills.

Kick boxing is popular as well.

With regard to Explorers my two went but they had started at beavers and did Cubs and scouts. They had an amazing time with Explores. They ' hzve marshalled at festivals, they would have an international trip one year and a national trip the following. Maybe research what yours has to offer because it appears that some are better than others.

Scouts until 14.5.
Explorers 14-18.

Point being, there are plenty of things a 14 yo lad could do besides football and PS4.

I don't hate them. We have timers set up so they can only play for 2 hours a day then the xbox turns off.
As for other activities, my 13 yr old plays violin in an orchestra, he is in Boys Brigade,he does judo. My 12 yr old is in a football team which trains 3 times a week and plays piano.
I'm lucky, they have a good balance of activities. I have no issues with Fortnite or fifa at all.
(I sound really smug, I don't mean to. I suspect my 7 yr old will be a much bigger problem when his turn comes)

I think the op means stuff that he could do round the house rather than out somewhere that might involve complex logistics and maybe that doesn't involve an organised activity or one that costs ££. OP my DS is younger but similar problem here.

Binary, think you're judging me a bit harshly there by saying that I'm allowing my 14 year old DS day everything is boring and not sticking to anything.
He started as a beaver, did Cubs then progressed on to scouts until 12. I think that's giving it a good go.
The instruments learning he started at the age of 5 and decided to give up after grade 5 when he was in year 7.

I know there are plenty of things he could be doing but I'm afraid he doesn't find them interesting and they're not just things you could do impromptu.

No judgement from me!!!
I do think it is harder to do things around the house and keep them engaged unless they have a particular passion, I have a friend whose son is 15 and he is passionate about writing lyrics and playing guitar, that's why I suggested some activities that are not expensive and out of the house to get completely away from the xbox or playstation. The activities I suggested ( cadets, mc boxing, exploers) all help develop different skills including discipline, self reliance , time management etc.

Thanks angry bird, that is what I meant rather than looking for another extracurricular activity to do
during the week.

He's back now and in a good mood, so I'm happy.

Thanks for this thread. We have similar issues here. Doesnt help that we are the "mean" ones and all his friends seem to play much more than we allow our son.

I don't know a 14 year old who would go to Scouts.

What an odd thing to say HepzibahGreen

There are hundreds of thousands of Scouts in the UK (millions worldwide), and many of them are 14. This weekend, thousands of them will be on camp, doing all sorts of activities. Odd, that you don't know any 14 yr old lads who want to.

OP - I agree with other posters who have said it makes sense to make a rule limiting the time he plays these games, for every week, not waiting until he gets angry. He learns to manage his time across the week, or each day or however you decide to "ration" the time.

Re comments about Scouts age. DH and DD (11.5) are currently at a Scouts camp and the average age of her group seems to be around 11-12. There is another, smaller Scouts group that runs on another night which may have older members. I know that the number of explorers in our area is small.

I wasn't saying anything about your ds not going Xsquared - it isn't for everyone, I was just replying to Hepzibah's ridiculous implication that 14 yr olds don't go to Scouts / Explorers.

That's ok Backforgood. I wasn't trying to imply anything. Just giving my 2p worth about my own dcs going to scouts. DH is a scout leader and I think DS would have been less inclined to go if DH wasn't.

was just replying to Hepzibah's ridiculous implication that 14 yr olds don't go to Scouts / Explorers.
Actually what I said was I don't know any who would. Because I don't. So, that's my experience. I'm sure Scouts is very good for young lads, but they have to, you know, want to go.
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Yes, me. I can’t stand computer games they turn my husband and son into some sort of demon and if something goes wrong the computer is always to blame, irrespective that it’s them that’s controlling the character .