Invites - confirming last minute?

[justasking111]

Known friends for a long time. They are always bad at replying to invites letting everyone know very close to the time. They do it to everyone. Well last weekend they were at a party, the wife admitted to OH that they always delay replying to invites in case something better comes along. So is this a common thing does everyone do it just in case??

Nope- it’s not normal. Your friends are sadly rude and don’t deserve the invitations in the first place.

Myself and most close friends I know work on first asked = first attended unless a family event/mil emergency crops up.

That is so rude but we all know people who do it (most people aren't stupid enough to actually admit to it though!). It would be the last time I ever issued an invite to them.

I was a bit surprised but didn't know if it was rude. We have always accepted first invite too.

I couldn`t not invite them again. We are part of a close knit circle who issue invites. They would know if we did not invite them.

I would be tempted to invite them at the very last minute and say ”we were waiting to make sure nothing better came along first” and smile.

Tempted but wouldn't actually do it. Sadly. These sort of people need to be told.

Don't invite them and tell them why, they're not valuing the friendhsip/invite if your just a fall back if something better doesn't come along. Can't believe they admitted that, very rude!

No it is very rude, now she has said it out loud that would really wind me up.

I can be a bit brutally honest at times, so next time I invite her I would ask her to let me know by Tuesday or I will assume she isn't coming. Maybe have a WhatsApp group for those invited and if she doesn't accept by Tuesday, put in a lets organise plans for X, sorry you can't make it CF and drop her out the group.

It is only when these people are pulled up on their behaviour that they will change.