To keep calling/messaging support when someone’s husband has died?

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Colleague at work, her husband died suddenly , I’ve known her for a year and we work really well together.

She text me when it happened and I’m covering for her whilst dealing with everything plus mourning.

I’ve text and called a couple of times since it happened a week ago, she always replies or calls back.

Am I being too much?

She has lovely support out of work and in it , I don’t want to look like I’m trying to involve myself I just care about her and ant to be there for her.

I’ve just sent a little text as it’s the first weekend without him at home and wondered if I’m being too much?

Should say I’m covering for her whilst she is dealing with everything and mourning.

I wouldn't call as she may feel pressured to talk when she really doesn't feel up to it
The odd text letting her know you are thinking of her is prob much appreciated though

I don’t see the harm. she will ignore you if it’s too much. When I was mourning family I appreciated any contact especially cards.

I'd keep contacting her, along with 'I just want you to know that we're thinking about you, get back to me in your own time xxx'

You sound very kind...I'm sure it's appreciated but if you're worried, you could always say in a text that you hope you're not intruding on her grief and to please tell you if she needs space.

She will have lots of support now. But what she will find that within a very small Amt of time that support just disappears. Please remember to be there for her too in 4 weeks, 4 months , 4 years as I’m completely on my own.

So true.

Keep texting. It means so much just knowing somebody is thinking about you.

mijah I say that in every message or call. “Do you want to talk to me now” “don’t feel you have to reply if you don’t want to” everyth8ng is I. Her bag, court, I just want her to know I’m here if needed.

I’ve told the team at work that this phase doesn’t count, once the funeral has passed and her adrenaline runs out she will need us more.

I’ve not experienced it myself so I’m just imagining how I’d cope and what I might need.

Thank you

You sound like a lovely friend and I'm sure it's much appreciated.

Keep messaging, different people give you support in different ways and speaking as someone in your friends position it truly is a lifeline to know someone is there for you, especially later on.

Texts are great.
I had so many days I couldn't physically speak, but getting texts was really comforting.

It’s difficult to know what to text when Hi, how are you? Is a natural text.

I’ve just let her know I’m here and she replied this morning with thank you. I’ll leave it at that now, I know she has family and friends.