I want to leave my kids

[Terriblemother101]

NC for this as could be outing.

I’ve been with DH for 20 years and we have 3 DCs 17, 11 and 9. I love my family but ...

DH is always in a fucking bad mood. He hates his job and the fact we don’t earn enough to move out of our small house. He hates the fact his business still isn’t working and he refuses to give up. He gets snappy with me constantly and if I mention anything he just shouts and swears at me. The kids have picked up on this and they too treat me like shit because he sides with them everytime. I come home from work feeling great and happy and soon as I walk though the door they start and I feel crap. I feel so crap I feel like not coming home.

I’m in charge of washing, cooking, shopping, cleaning etc. I’m basically A live in slave. It’s affecting my mental health.

Do I leave? Wwyd?

Yes, you should definitely end the relationship.

Would he leave?

Can you afford to move somewhere nearby? Rent a big enough place to have the dc 50/50?

Hang in there it does get easier, if it doesn’t chuck him and get an au pair, I never looked back

Ur kids aren't the problem, ur dh is. He either needs to get a job that will support the family and not make him miserable or divorce him.

I often wonder if there is something about middle age for men that makes them grumpy, a 'men-opause' if you will.
You need to explain how you feel to him, and if he doesn't want to accept that there are changes that need to be made, then you need to seriously consider a life without him in it.

What does he say when you talk to him about it?

Why are you working and doing everything. Things need to change for everyone’s benefit.
Dh being in a foul temper all the time affects everyone. It has a ripple affect and causes everyone to act out the same.
Tell them all how you’re feeling and that you’re not standing for it anymore.