financial abuse what is it ?

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I have been married to my husband since I was 18 I am now 39 and we had 3 children I have been been a stay at home mum with several part time jobs over the yrs from cleaning to receptionist and carer for my middle daughter who has suffered health problems for many yrs, My husband likes a drink and always has done my youngest is now 11 and I stayed in my marriage always hoping it would get better and it hasn’t I receive carers allowance which he berated me for, outside the home he becomes this lovely person who would do anything for his family but in our home he is always putting me down and says I’m useless and it’s making me feel worthless, he tells everyone he loves his job (narcissistic tendency) he tells me he hates it and I need to go out full time he looks at me with hate and yet I’m the only one who drives and takes him wherever he wants to go he chooses what we watch on tv but him putting me down like this has stolen any confidence I had in my ability’s

Any ideas

I’m not sure it’s financial abuse but it sounds like a horrible marriage.
You don’t need a label for it, you can divorce him if you want.

I posted on your other thread.

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/financial-abuse/

Financial abuse is when one partner controls the other through money. They normally earn and have all the money.
The other partner isn't able to make decisions or do what they want financially.

Does this sound like you?

Do you have equal access to money as your DH?
If your marriage is looking bad maybe it's time to think about how you could support yourself by working. Do you own the family home with your DH?

Irrelevant if it's label, it doesn't sound very nice at all.

2 people should be married/together because they want to be, it doesn't really sound like you want to be with this man and I don't blame you.

Have you considered divorcing him ?