financial abuse what is it ?

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I have been married to my husband since I was 18 I am now 39 and we had 3 children I have been been a stay at home mum with several part time jobs over the yrs from cleaning to receptionist and carer for my middle daughter who has suffered health problems for many yrs, My husband likes a drink and always has done my youngest is now 11 and I stayed in my marriage always hoping it would get better and it hasn’t I receive carers allowance which he berated me for, outside the home he becomes this lovely person who would do anything for his family but in our home he is always putting me down and says I’m useless and it’s making me feel worthless, he tells everyone he loves his job (narcissistic tendency) he tells me he hates it and I need to go out full time he looks at me with hate and yet I’m the only one who drives and takes him wherever he wants to go he chooses what we watch on tv but him putting me down like this has stolen any confidence I had in my ability’s

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/financial-abuse/

Lots of info on here

It sounds like he's abusive in many ways though.

Not only financial.

Hi thank you for your input with this matter, I am an easygoing person and live close to my parents etc which I think has made things seem more normal to me than they actually are as my parents are really nice people and I have them as my support, my father wasn’t a drinker but having married at a young age I didn’t really think that my husbands drinking was a problem, my mistake it is a huge problem I hate it but stupidly thought it would eventually improve, he gets up at 4-30 5 am and puts a wash on! I wake with the alarm at 6-15 when he is then at work he will come home at 2 and say I put the washing out did you notice? And I say I like to do the washing when I get up later on he will say he does everything even the washing!

Thanks to all who gave me their views x