Has anyone else noticed that almost every person they've dated had their longest/most serious relationship with the one after you?

[Borelis]

Has anyone else noticed that almost every person they've dated had their longest and most serious relationship with the one after you?

I'd say it's true for 90% of the ones I've dated... yet before me, they've had one night stands, flings, relationships lasting a few months or were just players, narcs etc. yet whichever women they date straight after me, they end up being together with for years, marrying etc.. and even the only one who didn't get serious with the direct next one, did eventually end up marrying someone as identical to me as possible (he even said so)

Such an odd pattern and this applies regardless of whether they've left me or I've left them

A guy I was on a date with said this was true of him and I think I did meet DH just after that 🤔

I was this person so many times. It was so frustrating and often literally heartbreaking. I vividly remember the last time it happened. I woke up one morning and realised it was happening again. The guy I was seeing and thought was really into me, wasn’t, and had just text me telling me about the great person he’s met. (Not me) It was like a movie moment where you wake up and smell the coffee. I went to work and said, that’s it, I’m done. No more faux relationships. That night I went out for my friends birthday party, and met my DH.

I think this is fairly common for people you date in your early 20s? Not necessarily a comment on you. Just that you happened to be a bad fit at a time they were looking for a serious relationship.

Yes, the same for me. Whenever I split with someone, I could pretty much guarantee that the next woman they dated would end up as their wife. Most bizarre. It feels like I 'trained' them and then another woman got the benefit. Or maybe they were just bloody relieved to get away from me lol. One ex married his next girlfriend after me and mutual friends were freaked out by how much she also looked like me. With hindsight, I look back and I wonder how much was down to me giving off 'like my independence too much' anti-commitment vibes. Those vibes are still with me. I can't see myself ever giving up my independence.

Quite the opposite. Only one of the guys I have been with has had another relationship more serious than the one we were in, whatever that says about me.

A few have had a series of dates and short-term flings, one did get married to the next one and had two children with her (but is not happy as he tells me - nothing to do with me) and one has not dated again yet at all.

Apart from one I have always stayed friends with all of them, so in a good position to have a chat about how they have been getting on.

I haven't noticed this exact pattern but I have noticed that men generally don't stay single for long between dates/flings/relationships in comparison to women.