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Would you report this to the school?

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 16:47

Name changed for this in case the person I’m talking about sees it!

I follow a school mum on Instagram (don’t know her really but she followed me so followed back out of politeness)

She frequently posts photos of her children totally naked, including most recently a ‘story’ (visible for 24hrs) of several videos and a photo of both kids (boys age around 3 and 6) running round totally naked with everything visible. I report the photos and videos every single time and they get taken down but she keeps doing it, and even once complained about people reporting them.

I’m sure it’s done entirely innocently and she’s just very naive but it’s a very public platform!

Should I email the school and let them know? Or is it none of my business?

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Andoffwegoagain · 03/05/2019 16:51

I think I would email the safeguarding officer and make them aware of it but not name names. It might prompt them to remind parents about online safety.

Just checking though, is it possible to restrict your instagram? If it’s on a private setting then it’s a personal decision really. Sorry, don’t know how it works so may be barking up the wrong tree.

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 16:52

What?

What a world! Innocent children at play and you want to complain?

SparklyMagpie · 03/05/2019 16:55

@FiremanKing would you be happy having the world to see your children running around naked where anybody could take those videos and photos?

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 16:59

FiremanKing

I have no issues with the children playing naked in their own home, I do have issues with videos of it being shared on a public platform for anyone to see!

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FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 16:59

@SparklyMagpie

Mine are adults so yes it would be a bit freaky!

In all seriousness, I wouldn’t have a problem with friends and family seeing it but to be honest I wouldn’t have posted them playing with or without clothes on because I don’t really think it’s especially interesting.

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 17:01

Why would you not message her or comment underneath about your concerns?

It seems odd you want to ‘report’ her but don’t care enough to voice your concerns to her?

SlimGin · 03/05/2019 17:01

Is her instagram on private or public? If it's private only the people she allows to follow her can see.

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 17:03

Andoffwegoagain

That’s what I was thinking, not telling them who it is but just suggesting they might send out a general email reminding people of internet safety and how very public it all is. There is an option to make your account private but not individual photos/videos. Her account isn’t private though (shes a ‘mum blogger’ although not a very successful one)

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 17:07

FiremanKing her instagram is public! It’s not just friends and family seeing, she puts loads of hashtags on her posts too so it won’t just be people who follow her who are seeing them. I don’t know her well enough to say anything to her about it plus she might take it more seriously if the school say something about it

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greathat · 03/05/2019 17:31

I suppose theoretically she could be done for producing dodgy kid vids. Police prob wouldn't be interested but it might be worth inventing a story about someone you heard about

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 17:33

If she’s a blogger then she is probably aware of any risks but they are overshadowed by her desire to put her and her family ‘out there’, especially if she is using tags.

I think your concerns will fall on deaf ears as these blogger types will post pictures of themselves on the toilet for attention in the aim to have their family photos followed by as many people as possible.

I’m on Instagram and I’m never ceases to be amazed at what ordinary people think anyone else is interested in their lives! Including mine!

LL83 · 03/05/2019 17:37

If you believe she isn't aware of how public her Instagram is then I would consider telling her or asking school to highlight dangers. I suspect she knows the risks and has decided it isn't a concern for her. Which is stupid but letter from school wont change that. At the very least the children may be embarrassed later.

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 17:37

This is the kind of thing I like on Instagram! I couldn’t care less about anyone’s children or people posing in their bra and knickers!

www.instagram.com/p/Bw7swIlHrhK/

Bringbackthestripes · 03/05/2019 17:39

When she says about being reported why don’t you just say that it’s probably just someone wanting to protect your children from being viewed by paedophiles?

If you report it to school then she will know it is one of her ‘friends’ whereas if you just responded with the above it could be anyone that reported her.

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 17:39

FiremanKing
Haha I love it!

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Bluntness100 · 03/05/2019 17:45

I'm sorry but if she repeatedly has her posts taken down. And she will be told why, then she knows and she keeps doing it, then either something is wrong with her or she's thick as mince.

So yes email the school.

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 17:48

Instagram is full of them though.

I like watching a lot of beauty videos on Instagram and there are loads of women who are posing alongside tiny infants who they have applied actual make up on so that they look like mummy! Or dressed in identical outfits but the outfits are for too adult for child to look like child, if that makes sense!

Or the endless pictures of children doing something cute like their child is the only one to have kissed a kitten etc

Instagram wasn’t around when mine were little and it just seems odd to think that anyone would be interested in seeing them play.

People seem to want their lives viewed through a gold dish bowl.

And don’t get me started on the ’hilarious’ prank videos. Staged and pointless. One keeps cropping up where the girl is sleeping and the boyfriend sticks a wax strip on her eyebrows so that she wakes and freaks out that her eyebrows will come off. Are we entertained? No, we aren’t!

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 17:50

Example here.

It’s an Instagram account about make up so why has she dresses her kids up and posed them? All about getting the likes.

BelulahBlanca · 03/05/2019 17:55

People do though! Some of these mummy bloggers are so inane and they have thousands of followers.

OP- Do you have any mutual friends who might have more clout with her before you contact school?

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 18:03

BelulahBlanca
Unfortunately not, I’ve only got a handful of ‘school gate’ friends and I’ve never noticed her talking to anyone during the school run (younger kids so we have to go in and wait in the playground instead of them being sent out to us so most people stand around and have a chat for a while)

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FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 18:08

I missed the bit about Instagram removing the photos. That in itself would mean she knows there is an issue and you would think that would make her question why?

Clearly trying to make her family ‘happen’.

I suppose it’s a lucrative way to earn lots of money for doing rather little if you become one of the top instagrammers.

Demi Rose for example. Just endless pictures of her in a bikini in an exotic location showing off her enhanced bottom. She must be raking it in. Which compares to sitting on a till in Sutton Coldfield, you can kind of understand why.

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 18:10

So you think there will be a backlash one day? A child becomes an adult and is terribly upset by the photos of their childhood hosted online? Are there grounds to sue the parent? It could happen.

octonoughtcake3 · 03/05/2019 18:11

The school’s job is to educate children. If you have a child protection concern then you need to contact SS.

Zippideedodaaa · 03/05/2019 19:44

*octonoughtcake3

The school’s job is to educate children. If you have a child protection concern then you need to contact SS.*

Not sure I agree with this. It's everybody's job to make sure children are safe. Yes of course contact SS if you have concerns about neglect or abuse but sharing information with school can be useful. Sometimes it's small bits of information shared that make up a bigger picture of concern. Schools have a member of staff in a child protection role who would be the contact if anyone had concerns. It's not the first time I've seen that said on Mumsnet about school being for education. It's really a threat to children's safety to have such a segregated way of thinking about child protection. If info had been shared and communication been better some of the horrendous CP cases may not have gone so far as they did.

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paintwater · 03/05/2019 19:59

octonoughtcake3 I disagree, schools are there for far more than that. My son’s school offer all kids of support for families and the children far beyond just education.

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