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Would I be a CF (or a bit weird) to do this?

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ContessaIsOnADietDammit · 03/05/2019 10:31

DS1 (8yo) has been invited to a party at the cinema, to see a movie both he and DS2 (7yo) want to see. DS2 is not invited. DS2 is not bothered at not being invited, but gutted that his DB will see said movie while he doesn't (DS1 is the type to gloat, and DS2 is not the most resilient of characters - we are working on both points).

Would I be a bit of a CF/odd if I dispatch DS1 with the party group, then take DS2 off to a separate corner of the cinema auditorium and watch the movie with him? We'd be at the same screening (unfortunately only one screening per day) but not with the party IYSWIM.

Afterwards DS2 and I would make a swift exit, find somewhere for lunch (I know where the party group are going so will avoid that one!) and pick DS1 up at the appropriate time.

So in my head we're not infringing on the birthday child's party, but I just wanted to canvas opinions on the above and whether people would a) find me odd or b) want to be told in advance so they weren't surprised to see me hovering! DS2 truly does not want to join the party, he's just desperate for the cinema bit....

Please let me know your thoughts!

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JellyNo15 · 03/05/2019 10:34

I don't see a problem with that.

Cheekyfeckery · 03/05/2019 10:34

It’s fine. Just tell the host that you’re taking DS2 anyway.

Presumably you have to drop DS1 and pick him up, so you might as well.

It’s no biggie.

PurplePiePete · 03/05/2019 10:35

CF would be asking the host to take DC2 as well. I’ve had that for a party at Kidzania before...

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SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 03/05/2019 10:37

If you sent Ds2 off with the party you'd be a CF.

Nothing you are suggesting would be wrong.

Enjoy the movie.

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ContessaIsOnADietDammit · 03/05/2019 10:38

Thanks, that's encouraging Smile I'm dithering over warning the host in advance because she is lovely and would offer to include DS2, which I would then have to emphatically decline because taking advantage like that WOULD make me a CF!

It would be a terrible battle of politeness Grin

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SammySamSam09 · 03/05/2019 10:42

I hate driving backwards and forwards into town, it's a pain to park and a waste of fuel so I go to see the film too or another if it was a crap kids one they were seeing. I've not been spotted yet Grin

FiremanKing · 03/05/2019 10:46

Perfectly normal scenario.

As you drop off the older child say that you and younger child will be in another part of the cinema.

What’s wrong with that?

Nonnymum · 03/05/2019 10:49

I don't see a peiblem with it. But don't think you need to keep it secret just explain. What you are doing to the party child's parent/party organiser and your dc1 so their is no gloating

Submariner · 03/05/2019 10:51

If she offers to let him join just say 'Oh that's lovely of you but I promised him we would have some time just the two of us and he's really excited.'

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/05/2019 11:03

Not cheeky at all. Sit out of their way and enjoy some popcorn. I wouldn't be surprised if your not the only one doing this.

Grimgle · 03/05/2019 11:03

Absolutely fine IMO

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ContessaIsOnADietDammit · 03/05/2019 11:04

What’s wrong with that?

Well I cautiously thought there wasn't anything wrong with it but I have been known to get these things wrong and so thought that I had better check with the hive mind just in case! Grin

Good idea to say DS2 was looking forward to us time - will do that :)

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S1naidSucks · 03/05/2019 11:05

It would be a terrible battle of politeness 🤣

I think telling the party mum is definitely the way to go. If your oldest is likely to wind your younger boy up, then don’t say anything until the day. You don’t want a battle between them that is less polite.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 03/05/2019 11:10

No issue at all.
Are you going to drop DS1 at the cinema anyway? Then it's the easiest thing to say "oh DS2 and I are going to see something too, just the two of us" and not explain which film. But if she asks, say that you'd promised him a "mum and DS2" day, so if she offers to add him to her group you can say No easily without causing any issue.

I really can't see how that is a problem, honestly. :)

PamelaX · 03/05/2019 11:12

perfectly fine and standard

It's quite common for parents to take siblings to soft plays, parks, farms, any public location really, without intruding the party. No issue with childcare, you keep an eye on all your kids, everybody is a winner.

As long as you buy your own food and drinks and don't join, it's fine

TinklyLittleLaugh · 03/05/2019 11:15

I don’t think you would be being a CF at all.

But your DS1 thinking it is acceptable to gloat to your DS2 is not on at all. I know you stay you are working on it but I’d be pre warning him and coming down with sanctions if he gloated. Zero tolerance for being purposefully unkind to you siblings.

whitehalleve · 03/05/2019 11:16

I think it's fine as long as you don't sit next to the party group

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ContessaIsOnADietDammit · 03/05/2019 14:21

Tinkly I agree with you - it's hardly something we encourage! He's slowly getting it. Slowly. I think age is improving him....

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JudyDenchsBloomers · 03/05/2019 14:31

I would do this, don't worry about it!

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