I feel so ashamed re unprotected sex

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We have a beautiful 14 month DC, who has some congenital birth defects but is absolutely amazing.

We're going through several stressful life events including bereavement. We were going to wait at least 18 months before trying for another, I explained the reasons why and someone just today agreed that was very wise.

On the spur of the moment after particularly stressful day DH and I had unprotected sex.

A compounding factor is a possible illness that could cause fertility problems in the future (but very unlikely to)

I feel sick. I want another child but not yet. I don't want it to affect relationship with DC who is my world, and I'm scared their problems were my fault and that if my body isn't ready I'll damage the next one too.

I don't know if I should get the morning after pill. On the other hand I am still breastfeeding day and night (two hourly at night) although I do have my period back. But then, if we can't conceive in the future I would regret it.

I know I'm being silly but I just feel like I can't cope.

DH btw is quite happy to have another child now or in future and is comfortable with waiting or not waiting

I could get the copper coil I guess

I am on the implant ... this is fine to have while breastfeeding and I was using it 9 years before falling pregnant ... first attempt... that’s another option.

If your not ready speak to husband agree perhaps morning after pill is best ... you are not to blame for your current child’s issue what makes you think you are x x

Thank you. You're right, I know that rationally, but emotionally I'm worried which is one of the reasons I wanted to follow the advice about best length of time to wait.

Hi, it sounds as if the morning after pill will put your mind at rest and you have added stress at the moment, so it's important to clear your mind of this worry. As you say, you can try again once you are ready and have had time to consider all options and medical advice. 💐