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Dd dancing show. Who pays for families tickets?

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sharond101 · 01/05/2019 20:29

Dd is in her first dance show. I have invited close family although was apprehensive ad didn't want them to feel they have to go but they are all desperate to go. Its £9.50 reach and I feel I should pay for them, dh said they want to go do they pay? What is standard?

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HappySonHappyMum · 01/05/2019 20:33

They won't know what is standard - but I think you should start the way you mean togo on. Let them know the cost of the tickets and ask how many they want. If you buy them all tickets from the start they'll always expect you to!

dottyp0104 · 01/05/2019 20:37

We have had several dance shows and if family want to go they pay their own ticket.

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 01/05/2019 20:38

We pay as we don't have room to host them all so they have to travel.

Woowee · 01/05/2019 20:38

If the tickets were £1/2 pound then I would pay... anymore then they can pay for their own

Leeds2 · 01/05/2019 20:45

If I had asked them, without mentioning payment, I would probably just buy the tickets for the first show. But any subsequent invitations would make clear that it was £9.50, payable up front!

emphasisofmatter · 01/05/2019 20:51

We had this recently. Both sets of grandparents wanted to come see Dd. Tickets £10 each. I ordered all the tickets, didn't really mention cost but they saw confirmation/ information emails with the cost in. Both sets of GPs gave me cash/ said I owe you money for the tickets, will sort it by X date. So they expected to pay anyway.
So it sort of sorted itself, I think when tickets are £10 or so each it's quite a lot to offer to pay for yourself...

Aprillygirl · 01/05/2019 20:51

You have invited them therefore you pay.

GunpowderGelatine · 01/05/2019 20:52

Our DD has done several dance shows now, around £10 a ticket each time, never occurred to me to pay for other family members!

Vegisgrowingwell · 01/05/2019 20:55

I always pay but my family do so much for me it's a token gesture!

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sharond101 · 01/05/2019 21:03

Confusedmixed response

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greensnail · 01/05/2019 21:12

I normally pay for the tickets but family members have always given me the money back for their tickets when they see the price on the ticket or confirmation email. If I needed the money back then I would check before buying the ticket that they are happy to pay once they know the price.

ExpletiveDelighted · 01/05/2019 21:14

I pay for grandparents, they usually buy programmes for us all, drinks at the interval. I'd feel a bit awkward asking them pay to sit through a few mins of DD dancing in amongst 2 hours of other peoples children. Might be different if she was a senior in lots of dances / higher standard all round.

EvaHarknessRose · 01/05/2019 21:18

If not discussed at outset, you pay.

Tatapie · 01/05/2019 21:30

You pay, if they offer and you want / need the cash then take it but hopefully you get this back in other treats from them at other times. It does get expensive tho I sympathise! Plus costume hire, exam fees, shoes... Confused

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 01/05/2019 21:32

I have invited close family. You pay. That’s what an invitation means.

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