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How to help neighbour.

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ScottishMummy12 · 01/05/2019 18:15

I have a neighbour who has learning difficulties. About 6 months ago she met a man and moved him in. I think he is being financially abusive. Today I took her to the doctors and the doctor told her to see a dentist but she can't see a dentist as he has told her he won't give her the money towards treatment.
She claims pip and universal credit but he has taken her bank card and gives her £30 a week that is all she is allowed. It turns out he hasn't being paying the rent or council tax or any bills and now she is getting threatened with eviction and her electricity and gas keep getting cut off.
How can I help her? She is totally in love with him and refuses to see what he is doing is wrong.

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InTheHeatofLisbon · 01/05/2019 18:19

I'd contact the adult social work department, and tell them your concerns and that she's at immediate risk of abuse (especially if she's about to be made homeless). What a horrible bastard.

My SIL has learning difficulties and lives independently miles away (her choice). She had a partner who did similar and was physically abusive also which we didn't discover until he'd gone. He's in jail now thankfully!

stucknoue · 01/05/2019 18:24

Adult social services will have experienced this before alas. Her gp too may independently raise a concern

ScottishMummy12 · 01/05/2019 20:17

@InTheHeatofLisbon that's awful your poor SIL. It's terrible to watch knowing he is totally taking advantage of her.
Will contact adult social services tomorrow.

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Mammatino · 01/05/2019 20:28

Google "raise concerns for adult with learning difficulties". Quite alot of helplines and advice, mencap has a freephone. This is just terrible. What kind of filth does this kind of thing? Possibly even call 101 and speak to your local community support officer to make them aware she is at risk. I hope you can get her some help and she isn't absolutely heartbroken when the inevitable happens. Good luck and thank god there are kind decent people like you in the world looking out for the vulnerable.

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