Hi all, I would be grateful for any advice.
Baby is due in 9 weeks and for the last few months my partner has been increasingly unsupportive.
He was over the moon to find out he's going to be a daddy after only 5 months of trying. At first he did help me though the sicky phase and since 14 weeks, I have felt pretty amazing to be honest. But unfortunately I have got creeping high blood pressure and a few other pregnancy health problems.
I have pelvic discomfort, suffering wihh water infections, not sleeping at night due to being quite big now and giving off a lot of heat.
For weeks I have been coming home from work and straight into cooking the dinner whilst my parnter sits on his Xbox, gets called down for dinner and moans like a child when I ask for his help to clean up after, then he goes back on the Xbox.
He never once has used the washing machine or ever wondered how his clothes end up back folded in the cupboard, never does household chores and when I ask him I get immense grief. He would rather play on the Xbox or mess about with his car.
We are going to be tighter for money when little one is here of course and I would go without so they had everything they needed. My partner on the other hand would rather spend money on himself and has even thought about buying a new car, which would leave us too tight for money. Not once have I asked for him to help financially but I have brought everything for the baby, if it wasnt for me, this baby would have nothing. He doesn't offer any money to help and spends it on himself. I asked him for a little help last week with something he wanted for the baby, so I picked it up and he argued with me about giving me half the amount which was £30!
He moans about my health problems and says we'll you look fine!! I have been signed off work as sick now as my health problems could cause and early labour. My partner at this point should offer more help. He does not. I still do all house hold chores, cooking, cleaning, food shop etc and he moans and moans and moans of I ask him to help me. Xbox is more appealing or looking at new cars. He has mentioned a few times mayb we should have waited for a baby or you should be with someone who can support you better. He shows little interest in baby movements and moans when I call him and they don't move for him.
These comments are so upsetting. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm going this pregnancy alone with another child (him). His mum has had words, his Nan. I try to talk to him about it but he gets very nasty and makes it all about him. I get that he's probably anxious, so am I, but this lack of any support physically, emotionally and financially is taking its toll and I feel like I would rather do this alone sometimes and I hate him for it.
We used to feel such a great team but at the moment its me and baby.
Sorry for the long comment, it's quite nice to get it all out. Xx