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Leaving my boyfriend

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Julia124 · 30/04/2019 19:39

I’m a couple of weeks away from giving birth. My partner in the past has messaged other girls but we have always found a way though it. He has suddenly started being very secretive about a work colleague and has even lied about spending time with her. I do find it very difficult to trust him because of everything that’s happened. Being so close to birth and not being able to trust him is ruining my mental health and is destroying me emotionally but I don’t want to do this alone and be a single mum. We’ve spoken about this girl and he says there’s nothing to worry about but I don’t understand why he would lie about spending time with her if there’s nothing to worry about. He also has invited her to our house whilst I’m at work. Help.

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Julia124 · 30/04/2019 19:41

Also he tells me I’m being paranoid all the time but I feel like he’s just trying to project it onto me

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FiremanKing · 30/04/2019 19:43

He’s shagging her. Sorry that’s not what you want to hear.

You can raise a child without him.

Beachbodynowayready · 30/04/2019 19:45

Please get sti tested well before the birth. Your mw won't judge you if you are honest with her.

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SlimGin · 30/04/2019 19:46

Sorry to hear this OP. He sounds very guilty and not only that but he's trying to make you question your mental health by saying you're being paranoid. It's disgusting that he's treating you this way whilst pregnant, at a time where he should be most supportive of you.
If he can do this to you now (and has form for it) he will do it again, whether you work it through this time or not.
Don't doubt your ability to do this without him. Your child most definitely deserves better. Do you have family close by?

BelulahBlanca · 30/04/2019 19:47

There’s worse things in the world then being a single mum. You deserve better than this guy.

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Julia124 · 30/04/2019 19:50

We’ve recently moved to a new area all my friends and family are about 300 miles away so I don’t really have any support here

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BelulahBlanca · 30/04/2019 19:55

Move home OP. I was 200 miles away when my ex left me and our baby. I’ve moved back to my parents while I save up, I have a job to go to in September (teacher so I couldn’t get anything sooner) and my beautiful baby being raised away from a toxic relationship.

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Julia124 · 30/04/2019 20:58

Quick update he’s with her at the moment and lied about not being with her. Guess this relationship is over

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Shoxfordian · 30/04/2019 21:10

Yeah it has to be over. He's been cheating on you. I'm sorry op

FiremanKing · 30/04/2019 21:18

What a lovely pair! Not! She’s cavorting with a man with a heavily pregnant partner and he’s a cheating douche bag!

rededucator · 30/04/2019 21:27

How do you know he's with her OP?

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Julia124 · 30/04/2019 21:29

Snapchat

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rededucator · 30/04/2019 21:37

He was stupid enough to post a snap with her in it or you saw his location was with her?

MimiSunshine · 30/04/2019 21:38

Pack up everything and go home to your family. Do it before the baby arrives and give you and baby a fresh start

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Julia124 · 30/04/2019 21:41

She posted a Snapchat with him in it

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FiremanKing · 30/04/2019 21:53

What a disgusting pair of morons they are.

I can’t imagine how upset you must be feeling right now but I hope their actions are making you determined in dumping this poor excuse for a man.

FiremanKing · 30/04/2019 21:54

I don’t use Snapchat so I don’t know how it works. Can you post a comment underneath it?

rededucator · 30/04/2019 21:57

He is a clown and you don't need him. She is clearly stirring and posted so you'd see it. She knows you've seen it now. Has he said anything about it? Admitting or denying it? Excuses? Leave him x

QueenBeex · 30/04/2019 22:00

guess this relationship is over ... hmm well that's what would be the best outcome yes, unless you're willing to let him talk you into taking him back?

QueenBeex · 30/04/2019 22:03

FiremanKing You cannot comment on it publicly no, but you can send the image (the one in question that op has seen) with a msg attached to it directly to the person that posted it, privately.

FiremanKing · 30/04/2019 22:09

QueenBeex - thank you.

I’d be inclined to write

Good luck with a man who cheats on his pregnant partner and will be paying childcare costs for years to come, that’s quite a a catch you’ve got there.

BelulahBlanca · 01/05/2019 00:36

@Fireman I’d be inclined to send a picture of my packed bags.

RestingBitchFaced · 01/05/2019 11:24

Move back home while you can OP, it will be so much more difficult with a newborn. You still have a few weeks

HollowTalk · 01/05/2019 11:28

I'm so sorry - what complete bastards they are.

Would you prefer to get away and go to your family?

spiderlight · 01/05/2019 12:40

Better that you've found out now. He's an utter low-life and I agree that if it's at all possible, you should go home to your friends and family before the baby arrives.

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