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What would your 16 year old self think

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ChandelierSail · 29/04/2019 17:13

About how your life has turned out?

Would she/he be disappointed or pleased?

I haven't achieved everything I wanted to but I've nearly got there so all in all I think my 16 year old self would be pleased.

What about you?

OP posts:
ItsInTheSpoon · 29/04/2019 17:15

Really really disappointed about career & love life. Happy about children & home.

niceupthedanceagain · 29/04/2019 17:16

She'd be furious I was conforming to the rules and think I was a boring twat!

Cailleach · 29/04/2019 17:18

She would be devastated...yet somehow she knew all along it would be awful. Back then, she just didn't know why.

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Moonflower12 · 29/04/2019 17:18

My sixteen year old self would be shocked as to whom I live with now! ( My 15 yr old self had dumped him in a fit of pique! And immediately regretted it-as did he apparently!) redound each other 11 years ago.

She would be pleased about career too. And I think children but I bet she'd be surprised at the number-4.

scarecrowhead · 29/04/2019 17:20

She'd think I needed a perm

Littlechocola · 29/04/2019 17:21

She'd think I needed a perm Grin

AfterTrentham · 29/04/2019 17:21

I think she'd be delighted. I've got an amazing career, and earn so much I can afford to work part-time out of choice. I have a gorgeous, kind, clever, successful husband who earns very well. I have a lovely home.

She'd be very surprised that I chose to have a child (I swore at that age that I didn't want kids), and that I'm finding motherhood so enjoyable.

She would be disappointed that I don't look more glamorous. I'm not a looker, and I'm a lot heavier than I'd like to be.

AnneTwackie · 29/04/2019 17:23

She would think I’m really conventional and boring but to be fair I think she’s a dick!

Sux2buthen · 29/04/2019 17:23

Highly amused to have wound up with someone I couldn't stand (and vice versa) and to have just had our third child together.

Fatted · 29/04/2019 17:24

Probably delighted that everything I was wearing then is now back in fashion!

Littlechocola · 29/04/2019 17:24

She would be embarrassed by me.
I was going to live in a bus, be an artist with a boyfriend with dreads and be freeeeee.
Instead I live in a house, I’m a nurse, have a beautiful but short haired husband and I’m not free!
My children are mini hippies though, she would like that!

abcriskringle · 29/04/2019 17:25

She'd be delighted I'm married with a baby as boyfriends didn't feature heavily in my teen years. She'd be unsurprised at my career as it's one that was always in the pipeline. She'd be most disappointed in my current weight: I followed a very strict diet at that age to lose and maintain weight so I expect she'd tell me to get to slimming world immediately and sort myself out!

goingonabearhunt1 · 29/04/2019 17:28

I was a worst case scenario type of person as a teen so I assumed everything would turn out terrible so 16 year old me would be very relieved that my life is pretty good now (of course now I worry it will all go wrong somehow!) Also I look better and am thinner now than I was then (was chubby between the ages of 15-18) so 16 year old me would be happy about that. And I know better how to apply make-up and what suits me and am more comfortable in myself generally.

goingonabearhunt1 · 29/04/2019 17:28

Oh and I always assumed I'd be alone so 16 year old me would be surprised that I have been with DP now since age 23.

Hedgehogblues · 29/04/2019 17:29

She'd be shocked I hadent killed myself and mystified and delighted at how much better is all got ( eventually)

Inforthelonghaul · 29/04/2019 17:32

On the whole I think she’d be chuffed. No one had high expectations of me at 16, least of all me but turns out I’m actually an ok person. I have a lovely life, a fantastic husband and gorgeous children that I never imagined in my future.

I kind of wish I’d known how it would turn out - it would have made the really shitty bits a little bit easier to get through.

mimimoo22 · 29/04/2019 17:35

Amazed! Marriage to gorgeous very intelligent and well educated man. 3 children ( at 16 I assumed I wouldn’t be able to have children). Good degree and job. Own house. Would like the make up collection but horrified at lack of clothes buying, at 16 I had no concept of not being able to spend money on myself.

happypotamus · 29/04/2019 17:35

My 16 year old self expected that I would have killed myself before getting to this age, so she would be pleased. I am doing the job I really wanted to do when I was 16, I am married and have kids which she wanted. Sometimes it's really hard, but being 16 was really hard too in different ways. I am not suicidally depressed anymore.

Saucery · 29/04/2019 17:36

She’d be green with envy at my Doc Marten collection.

Slazengerbag · 29/04/2019 17:38

She would be shocked that I didn’t change the world. I had that 16 year old innocence that I would cure cancer and there would be world peace.

She would be horrified by the grey hair and the fact that I’m fat.

She would be over the moon that the lad she had just fallen in love with is now her husband and she’s been happy with him ever since that snog around the back of the carpark. She would be over the moon at 3 children as she was told due to surgeries it might never happen.

caoraich · 29/04/2019 17:38

She would think I have a really cool job and would be surprised I am a mum.

She would however be horrified that I wear skinny jeans and gave all my baggy jeans with zips all over them to charity years ago.

BertrandRussell · 29/04/2019 17:41

She would not believe the way women’s rights are under threat, and how little has actually changed. She thought everything would be sorted.....

BalloonDinosaur · 29/04/2019 17:42

It took reading others posts for me to really remember that I was self harming and moderately suicidal at 16 (and for some years after) and so, as others have said, she would be surprised I'm still here I think.

Surprised but pleased that I'm in a functional relationship, with a beautiful DS and a job that I (mostly) love.

Disappointed with some of my other, dodgier life choices.

Drogosnextwife · 29/04/2019 17:42

Actually I wish I could go back to the mindset of my 16 year old self. I think she would have been perfectly content with how things turned out, she didn't expect anything amazing for the future, now the future is here it's my current self that's disappointed I haven't done better.

OnlineAlienator · 29/04/2019 17:44

She'd be pretty pleased but think i could do more and would give me a kick up the arse. She'd be stunned we've been married and had a kid Shock she'd like the kid though Wink

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