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How would you react if your OH...

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Namechangeymcnamechange11 · 29/04/2019 17:09

Asking after a conversation with a friend.

If your husband was secretly wearing lipstick, brightly coloured lipstick, shaved every hair below their eyebrows etc?

If you're generally an accepting person, do you have to not have a problem with it at risk of being hypocrite? Would you think it had changed the fundamentals of your relationship?
Interested in your opinions :)

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CakeNinja · 29/04/2019 17:12

I think I’d be shocked about the wearing lipstick part purely because I don’t know any heterosexual men who wear makeup. The hair thing, well personally I’d fall off my chair if dp took an interest in personal grooming beyond daily showering and weekly face shaving but I do know men who are more into it and I wouldn’t find that particularly shocking.

Honeybee85 · 29/04/2019 17:15

I would wonder if he is a crossdresser ....

I have quite a few gayfriends and even they would never wear lipstick as they consider that too feminine.

Expressedways · 29/04/2019 17:17

Just because you accepting of something doesn’t mean you have to find it sexually attractive. It doesn’t make you a hypocrite or a bigot to not be turned on by a completely hairless lipstick wearing husband.

Crinkle77 · 29/04/2019 17:19

I consider myself to be fairly liberal but I would shocked if I found out after 12 years of being together as I'd like to think I know rather well.

BrillyPribble · 29/04/2019 17:19

As a personal thing, I don't mind men in makeup at all (grew up in the 80's, totally normal then!). I like hairy men though.
What would be more concerning would be the secrecy

CarolDanvers · 29/04/2019 17:22

I’d be 100% turned off him though I would want to find out a bit more for his reasoning behind doing it before. It’s not something I could live I don’t think. My attraction is to big, masculine men and this is not something I would want to deal with. I make no apologies for that.

Hedgehogblues · 29/04/2019 17:24

I wouldn't care

Aquamarine1029 · 29/04/2019 17:27

This wouldn't work for me at all. I'm a very accepting person, but I also have expectations and standards regarding my own marriage. I won't apologise for feeling that way, either.

NorthernRunner · 29/04/2019 17:32

Erm, it’s hard to say as this is a very far out hypothetical situation.

I would like to say that whilst it would taking some adjustment to, if my husband still loved me and didn’t want the relationship to change then yes I think I would be fine.
If he wanted to be more open and cross dress on a more permanent basis, with the view to transition, then no I couldn’t stay with him

FiremanKing · 29/04/2019 17:37

Is he buying his own lipstick or wearing hers?

KarenTheCashRegister · 29/04/2019 17:42

What’s his motivation behind this?
Huge David Bowie fan or experimenting with cross dressing?

PlinkPlink · 29/04/2019 17:45

I would remain open and try to have an honest conversation with my husband about what he was doing.

Cross dressing doesn't really bother me... I suppose because I have alot of personal kinks myself so I understand that people like different things/odd things.

Laughing at the thought of my OH doing that though. It really wouldn't happen 🙈😂😂

x2boys · 29/04/2019 18:14

Not sure the bright lipstick would go with his bald head tbh.

ThatCurlyGirl · 29/04/2019 18:37

What PP said:

You don't have to be on board with something you find out your partner does / is doing if it's a turn off for you.

Not saying it's happened on this thread but in day to day life I hate how women are demonised for not being utterly accepting of things outside their personal boundaries. You can't force yourself to find something attractive if it just isn't your bag - it's a totally individual choice.

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