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I think I'm gay

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Laceymacey1 · 28/04/2019 12:15

I’m 25 and have two little boys with my DP and have been with him for 5 years. recently I’m questioning my sexuality because I’m having strong feelings for a close female friend who also has a kid and a partner. we spend a lot of time together and every now and then i get the vibe she feels the same but i don’t know. not sure what to do but i can never stop thinking about her. I'v fallen big time, do I tell her or try get over this feeling?

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Chancewouldbeafinethlng · 28/04/2019 12:18

It really depends on what you want.
Do you love your dp? Do you value the relationship you have together? Do you feel comfortable cheating on him or would you end the relationship?
Take out the fact you are both women and think about it what you would like the end result to be.

QueenBeex · 28/04/2019 12:22

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 28/04/2019 12:26

The issue is nothing to do with being gay or not: it’s about whether you wish to end your current relationship for another. Please behave with kindness and dignity just as you should if it were another man.

PunkRockHippy · 28/04/2019 12:32

Agree you need to take the sexuality question out of this, it’s not the issue here. The issue here is that you are supposed to be in a committed relationship (I assume) with the father of your children and you have feelings for someone else.

If you’d developed feelings for a man, what would you do?

QueenBeex · 28/04/2019 12:42

Read about the proximity effect op.

The proximity effect refers to the idea that physical and psychological nearness to others tends to increase interpersonal liking

QueenBeex · 28/04/2019 13:02

This is worth a read too, OP.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Proximity_Principle

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Laceymacey1 · 28/04/2019 13:36

@QueenBeex thanks I will have a read and see what I think

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Pinkybutterfly · 28/04/2019 13:39

I would talk to your friend if I was you. I couldn't have those strong feelings and don't act on it. Is there anything in your relationship with dp that you aren't happy about?

Aethelthryth · 28/04/2019 13:41

You have two little boys. Preserving the stability of their family is more important than your sexual fulfilment.

StrippingTheVelvet · 28/04/2019 13:44

You need to deal with your current relationship first. Cheating is cheating.

QueenBeex · 28/04/2019 13:45

carrying on a relationship with the father when she's inlove with someone else wouldn't be the right thing to do for her boys.

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