Angry and sad.

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Grrrrrr! Was waiting in the car park for DH to pay to park, group of drunk lads walked past the other side of the fence. Heckled me ' hello darling!' not offensive but no need to shout, then 'do you do blow jobs' and 'do you give happy endings?' If they were prepared to be sexually suggestive to me, a late 40s, fat, casually dressed woman, what may they have said to a teen or young woman who may not be as confident as me. Casual misogyny and rape culture (I certainly feel violated) on a Saturday afternoon. Yuck!

I doubt they do it to young attractive girls as most young women today are self assured and would tell to fuck off.

I’m old and find that young men in groups are prone to suggestive remarks so I give as good as I get and that shuts them up.

Like any group they will intimate you if you show weakness.

I’ve found a good reply to ”How much, love?” Or similar remarks to what they called out to you is, “I don’t think your pocket money will be enough!” That gets the others laughing at the wag who said it and they pass on their merry way knowing I will answer them back.

Yes, good answer! I wasn't quick enough at the time to think of that, but will remember for future reference! I wasn't intimidated, though I did feel violated, but I am furious that this should still be deemed acceptable. Not happened to me for a long time. :(

To be fair, I’m gob in a stick and not easily intimidated so can hold my gaze. I once worked for a number of years with all young men and I got wise to their ways. Individually they were all lovely but in a group they would play up and behave completely different.

I can usually read a situation if it’s guys being stupid and pathetic rather than menacing and act accordingly.

But not every woman feels confident to give as good as they get so understandably for some it is a frightening experience.