Sorry if this is the wrong place, my dilemma atm,
young carer, most of my life. mother at 19, mother at 21, married at 22, difficult life, both kids on spectrum HF, one thing after another, mainly SAHM, worked in Care sporadically (all I know) no career. very overweight (common with young carers not being able to put yourself first in my case never) very unattractive, not bright I did reasonably at school but due to anxiety lost confidence so no real ability to do anything. I can't drive probably will never. Husband always worked hard, I've had the conversation that I don't want to wake up at 40 and have not achieved anything and the thought makes me sick, and he's is encouraging and asking me what I want to to and suggests options, trouble is I'm a bit blank, it's not something thats been an option before, what I want?? 
I would like to be a nurse but I can't really cause I'm fat and no one wants a fat nurse, I was a damn good carer but society treats carers dreadfully and you experience a lot of abuse both physically and managerial, so no. in an ideal world I would like to work in an area that helped improve the care system but not gonna happen for me, I love making cakes but courses are incredibly expensive, and I just need a lightening bolt moment and it's not happening. as a teen I wanted to be a social worker but I don't anymore, Is this very common with women who've had similar lives? the sense of not having a clue what I want cuz my life's been about what everyone else wants /needs? I don't know how to snap out of it and start making some decisions.