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Help- advice on separation agreements

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Charlie09 · 24/04/2019 18:30

So my ex is being difficult. I’ve implemented no contact so his new gf has told him/ given him some information to pass on. One is a book where we communicate regarding the kids. And one was ground rules!
One ground rule states that if we (ie him) can’t have/ see his kids on his set days (his set days being two hours on a Wednesday and a Saturday night every other weekend then he can get someone else in his family to have them without my consent!!
Now... he barely sees the kids and doesn’t actually care about that!! His new gf is being interfering as another rule was regarding clothes (won’t go in to it but it’s sknething my ex and I have never agreed with with separated parents).
Now.. as I have the kids most of the time .. surely he needs my consent before he gets someone else to have our children?! Also they’d much rather just stay with me if he can’t or doesn’t want to see them or feels he has more important things to do?
I don’t see how he barely sees them and now expects me to agree to him allowing them to go somewhere else on his (limited) time he has them?

Can anyone tell me if I have a right to refuse this or if I’m being unreasonable? His mum is not a nice lady and the kids wouldn’t want to stay with her if he’s not there?!

Any advice would be appreciated.

Oh and his book of choice to communicate... a blue heart fluffy shaped book!!! Wtf!!

OP posts:
Nnnnnineteen · 24/04/2019 19:48

He absolutely can organise someone else to have the children on his contact days I'm afraid. It's no different to you organising a babysitter or sleepover with grandparents or a friend. What happens on his time, as long as it is legal and not harmful to the children is his parental decision.

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