Inheritance and fairness for siblings

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Please could I ask WWYD

Dc1 & dc 2. Both same mother, but different fathers, neither of whom they see. Born 10 years apart. One of mothers ex husbands (but not biological father to either dc) dies and leaves substantial sum (think millions) to dc2.
Dc1 (43) sent to boarding school at 5 yrs old.
Dc 2 kept at home till secondary. Boarding school a choice.
Dc1 made to work for every ‘luxury/extra’

Dc2 always given credit card/car/phone etc.
Both dc had relationship with ex step father.

Dc1 feels devastated as works hard looking after family. Dc2 has never had job longer than 7 months and is now 33yrs swanning all over the place (think mega bucks restaurants/horse racing/ holidays/private jets/prime central London property)

How would you handle this. Would you say anything to Dc2? I know that if they were my children I would have a lot to say!

Thank you for any input. Grateful far all advice including none of dc1 business!

Different fathers different opportunities given. That’s life and luck of the draw.

However, personal happiness and fulfilment isn’t all about wealth and by the sounds of it the one with the money is unfulfilled and finds it hard to settle.

Thank you Fireman. Think you're right. It's mainly sad as inheritance has come from someone who was not bio father to either dc. Money not everything...but it helps.
Absolutely right about who has a more enriched life though. Thank you again.

Very confusing.

This is your mother? Who had two children and you are DC1? and you have a half sibling, DC2.

Someone your mother had a relationship with died and left a huge amount to your sibling, but not to you?

Are you sure he wasn't your sibling's father?

If you're asking does this look fair on paper, then the answer is no.

Can you say a bit more about why you think he left money to your younger half sibling and not to you? You must have a theory.

Was the reason the deceased step-father only left the money to DC2 because DC1 was away at boarding school whilst he was with their mother? Did he have a meaningful relationship with DC1 equal to the relationship with DC2 or did he only see DC1 at holidays whilst DC2 was around daily?

This does sound like really bad luck, but I guess inheritance from non-family members is somewhat down to luck and unlike a biological parent the ex step father didn’t have any obligation to share his wealth equally with the two DC as neither are his actual children.

Thank you for replies. I will come back to the thread tomorrow as am working. Just to say I'm not the mother. Both dc lived with step dad at times. I'm so sorry if I've been unclear. It's a tricky situation to describe. Glad to hear all opinions though. Thank you for reading x

Are you married to DC1, OP?

Not easy to give any kind of opinion a this thread

No chic. But I know dc1.

It is fair and it isn’t, it’s not on a emotional level but it is where if this man died and I’m assuming was closer to dc 2 he has a right to leave the money to him. They are both lucky to have private education paid for by this man (if that’s right) and dc1 can’t be struggling that much if he’s had all this education. However dc2 could help his brother out and give him some

It's tough, clearly DC2 was the favourite, I expect that DC1 knew that already but this is a (final) reminder. However, in the long run I think DC1 will come out better as (s)he is self-reliant. If DC2 is a spendthrift then even millions won't last and I imagine it's harder to be flat broke after being rich. A kind sibling would do some variation to the will to allow DC1 to get something, so clearly DC2 is fairly self-centred. At least DC1 won't need to feel guilt-tripped into helping DC2 when (s)he goes bankrupt.

Yes, I think that was obvious from 'had to work for every extra/luxury' tbh! It's rather clear which side you are rooting for.

Third unequal inheritance thread of the night, it's a more common problem than I'd imagined.