Inheritance and fairness

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What would you do in this situation.

You have two children by different fathers.

DC2 grandparents by father give DC2s dad £500,000. DC2s dad gives DC2 that money. DC1 grandparents have no money to give, neither does father. You can afford to give DC1 £200,000.

What do you do?

If this is your will, you split it half and half...
Or do you want the children to hate each other when you are gone.

Split your money equally.

A good friend remarried and had a DS with her new husband. She already had a DS with her ex.

Her new DH left his money to be split equally between his step son and bio son despite the fact that step son may well inherit a significant amount. He never wanted his step son to feel that he was loved any less.

If ds2 has money in his name already then I would ask him how he would feel if you gave your £200,000 to his brother. Really you should treat them equally but I can see why you wouldn't. If money isn't in ds2s name and just promised I would go nothing with my money except will it equally to them until things change.

If you love them equally leave them the dame amount each. My dh has a good job and has saved and we have a lovely home. His brother spends every penny he gets. If dh parents left mote to his brother hr would be hurt, because deep down we all want to be loved by our Mum. If you treat one son differently the other will feel less loved.

caring that's not a comparable situation as both are children.

So you leave it all to DC1.
You make a will and die next week.

Daddy lied and at 21 DC2. Gets nothing but your other child gets the lot...
DC2 would think you didn't love him.

Slightly different opinion here but it's not dc2's fault or responsibly that dc1 is from a poor family.

Dc2 inherited £500k fair and square.

If you have £200k going spare, personally I'd give it all to dc1 since dc2 won't be needing it but I think you'd need to sit them both down and discuss it first. If they're close they may decide between themselves what to do.

£350k each would be what you'd hope for but in reality one is going to end up much better off than the other.