My DSis has been having an affair for 6 months and has, just earlier this month, left her husband (of 8 years) to be with the other man (OM).
She now wants to bring OM to family events and on an upcoming family holiday- basically slot him into the place where her husband used to be. I've said that if she does, I won't come with DS as I want to at least meet the man first without DS there. DS is only 2 so doesn't understand what's going on, but he was close to the soon to be ex husband, as am I. The STBXH is very good friends with DH too so it's very awkward.
I'm furious with DSis about how she has treated her husband (long story but not good) and I think she is setting a bad example for my son as to how to treat people. I understand that I am a bit precious with DS (PFB) but I just don't really know what the etiquette or expectations are?
Do I have any right to not want this man to be brought into our life so soon? Am I being a prat? I did say I wanted to wait until this new relationship was established before bringing him into our family as 'uncle so and so'. My parents think im overreacting. Any advice would be welcome