Things I won't miss about my ex

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He's a nice enough fella but...

Making out i can't cope!
Telling his family how tiring I find work and being a mother
His family turning up unannounced
Hacking my mumsnet account
The constant moaning about work
The obsession with the gym
Telling me how hard he works
Taking forever to do anything and making us late on purpose

Anyone else wish to share ?

His ego. Totally full of himself, he is. Luckily I haven't seen him for many years but I still think he's a prat.

Hacking your Mumsnet account? He can't be that much of a nice fella!

Things I don't miss:

Fungal toenail and refusal to do anything about it, for the whole relationship (4 years)
Death breath
His disordered eating
Chronic skintness despite outearning me and having fewer outgoings
His mum still did his laundry and he's a NT man in his 40's.

His violence
His passive aggressive bullshit
His lies
His control
His ability to make me walk on eggshells
His crap taste in music
His snoring
His utter stupidity when it comes to money

I have no idea how he got onto my account but he did!

Also the judgement I used to get for daring to sit on my backside sometimes. Fuck off mate not your business

Jealousy
Attempting to stop me seeing friends
Complaining if the ‘right’ shirt hadn’t been ironed for work
Financially irresponsible
Having an affair (at least I know why he was so paranoid that I would cheat)

Seriously wtf were we doing with these men! So many red flags!

His man tits (way bigger than mine)
Him making my mental health worse to the point I almost gave up
The really bad sex-but he thought he was a sex god
Shagging other women and acting amazed that I found out
Ignoring me/cancelling plans that we’d had for weeks and blaming me
M-if your reading this-you thought you could break me-hahahaha!

My ex is loooong gone, as in over 15 years ago, but I REALLY don't miss his huge ego, his constant caring about what his friends thought of him, his devious nature, his dishonesty (he wasn't even truthful to himself), his slobbish attitude to housework, his work shy nature...oh I could go on and on!!

I look at my dh every day and thank my lucky stars I met him

Can I add to this?

He used to block my path and try to grope me and kiss me yuk
Leaving me with a newborn baby from 5am to 10pm most days
All his secret debts that I thank god I had fuck all to do with

This is cathartic

He’s many years gone, though recently resurfaced to wreak havoc again. I do not miss his self centred-ness and selfish nature. Or his relentless focus on money. I’ve also recently realised how passive aggressive he was and how he used to “train” me by doing things really slowly or “accidentally” not see or hear me as punishment for some unspecified slight. It’s weird that I see all those old behaviours in a different light now. Gaslighting shitweasel.

Constant attempts to avoid anything remotely like housework
Groping
Kept wanting sex and sulking if I said no
Kept getting DCs to do all the chores when I wasn't there (see top of list)
Didnt want to be disturbed when reading, but got cross if I dared to ignore him when I was reading
Finding ways to avoid spending, yet expecting me to buy it all.

More than 2 years free, I feel so much better.