Husband bought sports car

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Husband bought a sports car £25k without telling me, feeling pretty hurt. We can afford it but we had plans for the money. Am I right to feel fed up? When I asked him, he said I thought you knew, I was aware he had been looking online but I never thought he'd actually do it. He said in the heat of the moment, it was his money and he can choose to do anything he wants with it...

Not completely out of the blue I’d you had seen him looking up cars online.

That would have been the time to make your feelings known to him.

However, he does sound selfish if he had already ear marked the money with you to pay for something else.

Is the money from his sole personal savings or do you jointly save?

Do you work?

What car did he get? A £25k presumably 2nd hand sports car may hold its value if it's sought after so he might be able to sell it (if not now, in a year or two when he's enjoyed it for a while) and get his money back to some extent.

He definitely should have discussed with you though.

If it's his money then really he can do as he pleases.

I did something similar, i was out one day and just happen to see 'the car', so I went into the showroom and bought it. My OH found out about it when it pulled up on the drive.

I guess the difference is I hadn't earmarked my money to be spent on him. He wasn't happy because he did expect me to consult him first.

Makes no difference who earns what. oP unless you have 25k you can spend on something just for you, then of course he is in the wrong.
But it is clear that he thinks of it as his money, and you see it as yours. This points to deeper issues that need to be sorted.