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What age did you leave home?

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balloonyellow · 21/04/2019 13:02

Since I’ve had my first child, I’ve been feeling a bit resentful towards my own parents. My NarcM kicked me out as they didn’t like my partner at the time (I was 17). My partner was an average guy, had a job etc. No wrongdoings, NarcM simply didn’t like me spending so much time with someone else. Since then I’ve never returned. I never lived with my DF either as he moved across the country when I was a baby. Ironically they both have partners who I don’t get on with. They met when I was 14+ so not step parents to me.

Anyway, sorry for the long intro! Most of my peers and colleagues left home around 21-25. They were allowed to save for house deposits, cars etc. I feel sad that I didn’t get that advantage but I’m going to channel that into supporting my DD more than my own parents did. What about you?

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FanSpamTastic · 21/04/2019 13:36

I was 18 - went to uni and never went back. Mainly because my little brother moved into my room and so there was nowhere to go back to! If I came home in the holidays I either stayed at my gran's or slept in the living room.

OohToBeAah · 21/04/2019 13:58

I was 23. Stayed at home to go to uni, then moved into a rented flat with an ex-boyfriend. That relationship broke down, so back home at 25. Allowed me to save for a deposit, and bought my house with DP at 27.

Aragog · 21/04/2019 14:03

Went to university at 18y but returned for all holidays, a brief time when I transferred courses and the summer after graduating. Moved in with now dh in the September, aged 23y.

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Montsti · 21/04/2019 14:05

Year abroad at 18 then Uni away from home from 19-23..home during the holidays..then straight into a rented flat after uni..

tobee · 21/04/2019 14:06

At 19. Didn't know I was going to at the time. Went to university and moved in with dp as cheaper than renting. He's now dh.

My dc on the other hand, can't see them ever moving out!

CarolDanvers · 21/04/2019 14:08
  1. Would have been sooner if I could have but we lived abroad in a place that was tied to my Dad’s job and I would have needed to return to the U.K. Like every single milestone of my growing up the maximum amount of drama, stress and tears was wrung out of the situation and I left on very bad terms.
AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 21/04/2019 14:09

Kicked out at 17 - was incredibly rude to my parents, but I did have somewhere to go, I moved in with my nan and then got a place with my boyfriend. In hindsight he wasn't worth falling out with them over and they were right about him. It has made me very independent though, my sister still lives at home and I don't know how she does it. Perhaps that's after 22 years of making my own rules, and finding other people's house rules too stifling. Who knows.

BelulahBlanca · 21/04/2019 14:10

18

heatwave2019 · 21/04/2019 14:16

18, I'm at uni but will rent afterwards with my boyfriend. (20 now)

FenellaMaxwell · 21/04/2019 14:17

Went off to boarding school in another country at 14. Stayed for university then got a job and a flat and just never went back again.

AxCap · 21/04/2019 14:18

Just turned 22. Stayed at home during uni, as did now DH, so we bought our house in the summer between uni finishing and grad job starting.

Herefortheduration · 21/04/2019 14:20

18, went to foreign university, only came home for short breaks. After I graduated I stayed in the other country for a couple of years. When I moved back to the uk I lived at home for 3 months until I bought my own house. Those months were awful, I love my parents but moving back after being gone for so long was hard on both them and me.

CMOTDibbler · 21/04/2019 14:24

Went to uni at 18, never went back for more than a few days after I was 21. DH did the same. We got our first car at 28

happyhillock · 21/04/2019 14:26

19 couldn't wait to get out of parent's house, shared a flat with bf until i got married at 23.

Ellapaella · 21/04/2019 14:27

17
Never moved back for more than a couple of months here and there after that. I have a good relationship with my parents but I couldn't wait to leave home.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 21/04/2019 14:27

Stayed with my boyfriend part time from 15. Moved back home to have my dd, split up with said boyfriend, moved out for good just before I turned 17. Me and my mum under the same roof just wasn’t a good thing. It does mean I do treat my 16 year old ds as an adult, but I certainly wouldn’t want or expect him to move out. (He’ll obviously go in a year or so for uni, but I think that’s different.)

happyhillock · 21/04/2019 14:28

Both my daughtet's left home before they were 20, bought there own flat's, i was very proud of them and there independence.

Aebj · 21/04/2019 14:31

Camp America was my downfall or lighting experience. I was 18 in the February, camp America in the june- September. The following may , so just over 19, I joined the navy. Best ever move. I visited while on leave and some weekends but my heart was lost to travel.
However at the ripe old age of 44 I’ve not moved house for 9 years ( even as a child my longest time in a house was 5 years). I’m now home and happy, some 14,700kms from my parents!
Ds will probably move for uni but will probably move back after( I would love him to travel but he’s such a home bird ). Ds 2 , although he says he wants to move miles and miles away , if he could afford to I’m sure he would buy the house next door!!

1990shopefulftm · 21/04/2019 14:39

18 for university, then met my DH at uni and moved in with him.

Gingerkittykat · 21/04/2019 14:43

17, to escape a bad home situation. I think housing prices were far more affordable then, since I easily afforded rent. Absolutely no regrets.

It is only now my own DC are at that age and still relying on me a lot that I can see how much support most young adults get from their parents.

KaterinaPetrova · 21/04/2019 14:50

I was 16. I didn't get on with DM and her husband (still don't really because she is extremely self centred and self pitying) and I couldn't live with DF because his wife was the epitome of Wicked Stepmother.
I got a job, rented a house from a family friend and paid my own way albeit at a slightly lower rent than market rate.

Frazzels · 21/04/2019 14:53

Just before my 17th birthday, I had my first child at 16 and wanted to move out as soon as possible as there just wasn't enough space and my mum wasn't exactly impressed with me

FookMeFookYou · 21/04/2019 14:55

I was 22 but would have gone much sooner if circs allowed

Isth · 21/04/2019 14:58
  1. I moved in with my 17 year old boyfriend, who turned out to be horrifically abusive, mentally and physically, but it was still preferable to being at home with a sexually abusive stepfather. Happy life. As it goes, I ‘moved back in’ for a year altho I spent most of the time at my best friends place, and in that year met the man I am going to marry in July Smile
jennymac31 · 21/04/2019 14:58

Lived away for university, gap year and postgraduate course (age 18-22). Moved out permanently when I was 24.

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