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I'm the most intelligent person I know

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tobee · 19/04/2019 22:42

Not me.

But I've had 2 men say this to me in rl. At different times. Also I was listening to something today where a man was claiming to have the highest iq of anyone in the world.

I don't think I've ever had a woman say to me in rl that they are the most intelligent person they know.

Is this a male thing?

When the men have said this to me in real life I thought "Confused"

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tobee · 20/04/2019 00:58

Lol!

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dontgobaconmyheart · 20/04/2019 01:32

I have heard women say this, although I don't really know why anyone would say it when it does nothing but out them possessing limited self awareness and probably just means they were never actually intelligent enough to be running in educational or social circles where the genuinely smart people are, if it's true at all. More likely they're just a knob regardless tbh.

VoteJadot · 20/04/2019 07:24

I don't say it. I think it quite a lot though Wink

SaltSpoon · 20/04/2019 07:31

Not just men. I'm a woman and I say this.

BroomstickOfLove · 20/04/2019 07:35

I got drink once and had a bit of a rant to my best friend about how clever I was, and then I woke up the next day and was utterly mortified. I'm not the cleverest person I know, though - I know plenty of very, very clever people.

BroomstickOfLove · 20/04/2019 07:36

I am clearly not clever enough to check my posts for typos before hitting post Blush. I got drunk.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 20/04/2019 07:50

I know a lot of random facts, and I can get a very high IQ test pass. These do not make up for my other deficits, like idleness or greed.

tardyheart · 20/04/2019 07:52

Personally the only Woman I've heard say this talks out of her arse. She forgets that through university I know what grades she got as I was on the same course, and mine were roughly the same.

But then on the other hand my DP has HF Aspergers (as was) and his brain processing Is incredible. He never says he is the Cleverest person, as he knows he lacks some social & emotional intelligence.

Mokepon · 20/04/2019 07:56

@TheSmallAssassin
The first rule of Dunning-Kruger club is you dont know you're in it..Wink.

OnlineAlienator · 20/04/2019 07:57

Never heard a woman say it. I know i'm clever, but there's way more delight in letting people discover that for themselves Grin

Had an ex who banged on about his enormous intelligence though - cringeworthy. I think he was on a par with me (not world beatingly intelligent), but the difference was he never DID anything with it. Which made him look stupid.

BoglingToAswad · 20/04/2019 08:01

If they're really intelligent, they'll know all about the Dunning–Kruger effect.

Yep! This is usually a good way to shut these people up!

dudsville · 20/04/2019 08:06

Nothing's ever going to fall into a camp of "just men" or "just women" say this 100% of the time. That would be akin to thinking that we had a female or male way of thinking, as in when men say they "think like a woman"! Arrogance and stupidity is not a plague that troubles only men.

SouthernComforts · 20/04/2019 08:07

I get described as intelligent quite a lot, because I did well at school and I'm good at tests, and did well in maths. So, on paper, maybe. However I find more and more stupid comments coming out of my mouth. I'm still cringing from last week, looking in an estate agent window, and I remarked "ooh this one's grade II, I didn't even know it went to eleven" Blush so I think I'm just a bit good at maths, not the most intelligent person in the world, sadly.

OhTheRoses · 20/04/2019 08:12

A girl at school said this regularly. She got to Oxford and had a breakdown because she couldn't cope with not being top. It must have been a rude awakening.

Decormad38 · 20/04/2019 08:15

The sound like dick heads. I work in a university and I have never heard anyone say that.

Whynotnowbaby · 20/04/2019 08:31

These sound like people with extraordinarily low emotional intelligence and very limited experience of the world. When I was a gauche teenager in a small sixth form college full of not very ambitious students I used to think I was pretty clever (not that I ever said so!) but once I was in the far more diverse environment of university I realised that there are plenty of people who know more than me, think more more creatively, write more impressively etc and that we all have things that we do better and worse than the next person. A lot of those students I was at sixth form with may not have gone on to do great academic things but they are now confidently running their own businesses as plumbers or designers, charming clients and generally proving that there are far more types of intelligence than just a list of qualifications and knowledge.

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tobee · 20/04/2019 13:02

I agree @dudsville. But are men/boys more likely to have been socialised to think it and to then feel it's ok to say it?

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YouBumder · 20/04/2019 13:10

I don’t say it, it’s cringeworthy. I’m pretty sure I’m more intelligent than most people I come across though.

RevealTheLegend · 20/04/2019 13:22

Statistically, I probably am one of the most intelligent people I know (have had a few psychological assessments and I do know exactly how intelligent I am in Relation to the general population)

I don’t say it though. As pp said. It is WAY more fun to let people find out for themselves.

Also, straight intelligence on its own is bollox all use. My boss gets paid more than me because she’s a better leader than I could ever be. I get paid for my knowledge and problem solving abilities but I lack some of the more marketable management skills.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 20/04/2019 13:45

DH is the smartest person I've ever met and never once in almost 13 years has he mentioned his intelligence.

Surely anyone who announces their superior intelligence hasn't got much to shout about, because truly bright people don't have a great deal to prove to anyone but themselves.

PrincessButtockUp · 20/04/2019 13:52

I've met a few people in my time who act like they think it but I can't recall anyone ever saying it. Personally I've always tried to take the view that if you're the brightest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. I would far rather learn more than display what I already know.

yellowalstroemeria · 20/04/2019 13:52

I am the most highly qualified person at my workplace.

However I also cannot tell left from right and walked into a closed door yesterday in full sight of the director.

Hefzi · 20/04/2019 14:02

I once met a man who told me - with surprise - that I was the only woman he'd ever met who was probably nearly as intelligent as him. He worked for the BBC so I told him he had a low bar Grin

It was decades ago, so before the whole negging thing - but who on earth thinks this is a good chat up line?! Hmm. Men...

Plus, even if you seriously think it, what would possess you to admit it. Surely that's one for the private smuggery?

MayFayner · 20/04/2019 14:10

He used to tell me he was in the top 1% of intelligent people in the UK and 10% top of the world.

I don’t get this? Surely the UK average IQ isn’t so far below below world average?

Or am I being thick?

AmIIntrouble · 20/04/2019 14:18

Never "the most intelligent" but my female friend think she is "highly intelligent" although there is no evidence to support her claim.

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