I have mh problems namely ocd and emetophobia. My ds is autistic. I also have a NT dd.
I panic about keeping things clean, hand washing, illnesses, etc normal ocd type things.
My ds has asd and is very sensory. He mouths a lot including his hands which is a big stress for me.
He also struggles to understand body signals eg, whether he is hungry or not, he could say his foot hurts but it turns out to be his hand. He gets it all mixed up.
I feel less anxious when dh is here but today he's on shift 4pm till 1am and lo and behold, 5 minutes after dh left for work, ds said his tummy hurt. I'm now petrified he's going to be sick. It could be, it's because he's hungry, missing dh, worried about something, the list is endless.
But because he has uttered those words, I am now paralysed in fear.
My mh or ds's asd is manageable but both together is frightening me.
It's affecting how I feel about my ds. Affecting my dh and his stress. My dd is also affected:(
Mh services are severely stretched, asd services are stretched, it's the easter holidays. I am on anti depressants but I'm not depressed, I have ocd and anxiety.
How do I get through life and be the best parent and wife with this consuming me?