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Friend offering to pay - WWYD?

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foxychox · 19/04/2019 13:38

A good friend of mine is planning a weekend away for a milestone birthday going to a specific place to do a specific thing. She mentioned it about a year ago and I wanted to go, looked into how much it would cost and budgeted accordingly. She has now found a tour to do exactly what she wants to do, it sounds lovely but is almost twice my original budget. I've said that I will only go for 2 days rather than 3 but she has said that she really wants me to go and has offered to pay the difference. Although we are good friends this just doesn't seem right, its a lot of money BUT I think if I don't go then she might not go and I really don't want to ruin her weekend. WWYD, accept the money or bow out?

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MoaningMinniee · 19/04/2019 13:40

Would it just be the two of you?

MoaningMinniee · 19/04/2019 13:43

I'd accept I think - and do something lovely and thoughtful (but very cheap) - as a surprise gift to say thanks. She obviously really wants you to be there for the whole thing!

Haggisfish · 19/04/2019 13:46

I would graciously and gratefully accept! I have just paid for my friend to come away with us-I was really happy to be able to offer, and really pleased she wasn’t too proud to accept. I know she would do the same if the situation was reversed.

smallereveryday · 19/04/2019 13:46

Accept with grace and thanks !

There is a HUGE difference between making an agreement to go in holiday with a friend expecting them to pick up your tab because you can't afford it but haven't discussed your lack of funds with them - and this situation where everyone knows the score and an offer has been made. With eyes wide open.

Your friend wants to do this activity. Like most things an experience is enhanced by sharing it with someone you love and the extra cost is a price she is happy to pay - as much for her as you. Enjoy !

NaBiAgOl · 19/04/2019 13:50

it's a gift not a loan? I think I'd accept.

mummyhaschangedhername · 19/04/2019 13:52

I've paid for people to come to say a spa day before, because i have wanted to do it and enjoyed their company and wanted them to enjoy with me. It's just felt that the cost of the thing. I'm sure she thinks the same.

Zoflorabore · 19/04/2019 13:52

She obviously really wants you to go op, accept graciously and enjoy xxxx

Zoflorabore · 19/04/2019 13:53

Pmsl talking whilst typing and distracted so apologies for the 4 kisses 😁

vinegarqueen · 19/04/2019 13:58

A good friend who really wants you to be there? Say thank you and accept. Enjoy yourself. You have paid your share and if you do this gracefully (maybe with a really thoughtful small gift thrown in) it will add to her enjoyment.

cstaff · 19/04/2019 14:01

I have paid for tickets to shows for my friend because I really enjoy her company and know that she can't afford it. If it was done in reverse I would accept. It just means that she really values your friendship.

Justkeeprollingalong · 19/04/2019 14:01

Accept. Your friend wouldn't have offered if she didn't want to. Enjoy.

Magmatic80 · 19/04/2019 14:17

Depends, was she offering to pay but not meaning it, or if she really wants you there? It’s just the difference she’s offered, right? Not the whole lot? I’d judge whether to take it as a gift, based on my knowledge of her character and our relationship.

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foxychox · 19/04/2019 21:02

Sorry for delay but thanks for replies! Think I will accept and organise another lovely thing for her once I'm a bit more flush Smile

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