How can I stop them fighting?

[Shutuptodd]

I'm at the end of my tether. Two of my children share a room and the other is in the box room. The two who share fight all the time. I swear they would argue over the colour of a bloody orange. I try my best to stop them separate them etc but the moment I go to the toilet/shower they start again. To make things worse one of them is being assessed for asd and the other knows exactly the buttons to press to send him into meltdown. Its driving me nuts and to make things worse my neighbour just knocked threatening to call the police if they dont stop as he works nights. I just dont know what to do it's like they hate each others guts. I take their things away, separate them and they still carry on.

How old are they all?

Dd 14 and 2 ds 10 and 8 they never used to be like this. Even before school they are at each others throats.

I’m not sure the police are going to come round cos your kids are arguing, it’s not 3am.
Your neighbour will have to get some earplugs.

I try and get mine out of the house or in the garden and wear them out when I can and then they’re too knackered to try and kill each other.

I feel you OP

Same boat! Except my neighbours claim they don't hear a thing when they are fighting, all I can suggest to you is;

I refuse to take them out (friends house, garden one at a time)
I done this for a couple of weeks and at home (main instigator stayed by my side) it was tough! But they finally grasped the concept as my other DC did what they liked as they never fought at all.
Now if they start I simply say that's it separation time, then they think about it, OP just follow through with what is going to happen that is the only thing that works!
Good luck it is tough but you will get there, take their computers etc away too

I dont like thinking we upset the neighbours. We live in a block so it's not like they have a garden to go out in. Sometimes I think it should be better to give them separate rooms and I sleep on the sofa but they would probably still argue.