Baby news

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I work with a lady who's desperate for another baby. She has one little boy who she loves to bits, and she'd love another baby. She got pregnant last year but unfortunately miscarried the baby. She's 43, so time is not on her side. We are very good friends and I think the world of her.
My daughter has just discovered she is pregnant, tho I'm not allowed to tell anyone yet. She is going to find out whether it's a girl or boy as soon as she can.
So, do I tell my friend that my daughter is pregnant when I'm given the go- ahead to tell people, or should I wait until I know if it's a girl or a boy? My friend so wants a little girl, and if my daughter is having a girl it'll be a double blow for her, especially if I tell her separately, iyswim? My friend explained it well, she's not upset that someone else is pregnant, she gets upset because it's not her.
Shall I wait?
I plan to tell her when she's not at work, so if she's upset she can have a cry/ kick the furniture/ slam doors etc and I can give her a cuddle. What shall I do?

It's unreasonable to hide your daughter's pregnancy due to your co-workers problems with having another child. You aren't responsibility for how she feels with your happy news. I'm not meaning to sound harsh, but that's simply the reality. You shouldn't feel in any way guilty about such wonderful news for you and your family.

*responsible

I struggled for years to have my first and did the whole weeping at other people's announcements. After that, when I couldn't have a second, that was my own more personal issue. She's got one, tell her what you need to. There's being kind and then denying your own happiness at the expense of someone else's misery - you aren't being cruel, it's a thing.

aquamarine I'm not planning on hiding the news, when I'm given the go-ahead from my daughter I'll be shouting it from the roof tops! I'm just thinking about the best way to tell my friend.i.e. tell her my daughter's pregnant, then tell her a few weeks later it's a girl (if it is) or tell her both bits of info at the same time? It may be a boy for all we know, not that that's an issue, but I know my friend will be more upset if it's a girl.

The best way to tell your friend is by text so she can react badly if she wants then put in her game face when she sees you. There’s no need to tell her whether it’s a boy or girl until the baby is born.

Tell her when you need to but No need at all to even discuss the sex with her.

'It may be a boy for all we know, not that that's an issue, but I know my friend will be more upset if it's a girl.'

You are way over thinking this on your friends behalf

Never thought about not telling her if it's a girl or a boy. I guess it's so common to find out and tell everyone nowadays I never thought about it. Didn't happen in my day (old gimmer, me!)

Could be right about overthinking things but we've had many a late night conversation about her desire for another baby, especially a little girl, she's a very good friend and I'm trying to be kind.

I don't see it as much of an issue, it's not you who is pg but your daughter. You can't avoid the whole world being pregnant!