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Would you be miffed if your neighbours...

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IntoValhalla · 17/04/2019 17:16

put a fence up while you are out?

Background: neighbours moved into house at the back of ours just before Christmas. Gardens back onto each other and are separated by a crappy, wire fence. Neighbours have a dangerous dog which attacked another dog badly a few weeks ago, and barks and snarls at the fence if I so much as dare to hang my washing out. My youngest child will not set foot in our garden if he sees the dog out.
Their youngest child (I’d guess he’s around 3) also appears to have very little adult input during his day, and spends most of it wandering the garden on his own or out the front on his own - while that is sad and makes me feel sorry for him, it’s also not my job to parent someone else’s child when he’s trying to climb over the wire fence as soon as he sees another human and his mum is completely oblivious Confused
The fence is going up at some point anyway, but they seem to have been away a couple of days and we were planning on getting the proper fence we’ve bought up tomorrow. The only thing that makes me a bit nervous about doing it, is the man who lives there is a complete and utter arsehole (as aggressive as his dog!) who is likely to get all offended and kick off if we say we’ve put it up because of the dog Hmm
Would you wait until they are back, and tell them you’re putting it up (our side!), or just get it done before they get back Confused

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Murinae · 17/04/2019 17:21

As long as it is fully on your land I would put it up while they were away.

piefacedClique · 17/04/2019 17:21

You don’t need to say it’s for that reason.... if they ask just say you’ve been saving for it and now seemed a good time. Or that you’ve been given money, had a tax rebate, won the lotto! Put a note through their door before they get back saying that you are just letting them know you are putting a fence up and then you’ve done what you can. If he gets agro you won’t see him over the fence anyway 🤣😬! x

Singlenotsingle · 17/04/2019 17:22

I'd just put it up. You don't need their permission. Tell him you thought you were doing it as a favour to him. It saves him the trouble, and makes it secure so that his dc can't get get out and get lost.

lordofthefries · 17/04/2019 17:22

I’d just put it up and if he accuses you of doing it because of the dog tell him no, it just looks nicer

Knittedfairies · 17/04/2019 17:23

I'd get on with it. Providing it's not on his land/doesn't contravene any planning regulations or whatever, you're perfectly entitled to put up a fence.

lalalonglegs · 17/04/2019 17:23

It sounds as if your neighbours will be cross whatever you do so you might as well fo it while they're away to avoid them screaming abuse at the workmen. I suppose you could drop a note through their door in advance telling them of your plans if you want to avoid being thought of as sneaky (or you could do it once they've gone and say that you didn't know they'd be away Wink).

Farmerswifey12 · 17/04/2019 17:25

If put it up too. It's on your land and you don't need to explain why

PacmansGapingMaw · 17/04/2019 17:25

If it's on your boundary it's a non-issue. It looks nicer and you installed it while they were away so there is no danger to children and dogs who might be around. Very civil.

RatherBeRiding · 17/04/2019 17:25

As already said, so long as it's fully on your land it's actually none of their business but neighbour sounds delightful so i can understand why you're anxious.

I'd not give any reason - simply say you are finally getting round to replacing the fence now the weather has improved. Like the idea of a note through the door - you could say you were going to let them know in person but as they're away you hope a note will suffice.

choosingchilli · 17/04/2019 17:52

If it's on your land put it up. And why worry about lying if he asks why? I'd be upfront and tell him yes the dog is scaring your dc and putting you off of using your own garden.

IntoValhalla · 17/04/2019 18:34

Thanks all!
My Dad is coming tomorrow morning to get the posts dug in Smile
It will be completely on my side, and it’s not excessively big or anything - average 6ft fence. When we held a panel up where it would go, the very top of DH’s head just cleared it.

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Singlenotsingle · 17/04/2019 18:42

A fence is good but a wall would have been better. Shame they're so expensive.

IntoValhalla · 17/04/2019 18:46

Single I’d build a fort with a moat if I could. He’s really not a nice man Hmm

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