Does anyone else dwell on how unsuccessful they feel?

[Dwellingsopassthegin]

I cant stop thinking about how unsuccessful I am. How can I become a better me?
Heres some background for context:

I'm 22.
Grew up in a small town.

Didnt do great in school but also didnt walk away with nothing.

I've worked since I was 13, first a paper round, then at a tourist attraction, then got an apprenticeship in dental nursing at 17.

Have been a qualified dental nurse for the best part of 4 years.

Me and DP bought a house last year, by 'us' buying a house I mean he bought a house but I pay half of everything. I couldn't be put on the mortgage as my credit score wasnt great.

My DP ended up financing a car for me, but I pay it, again due to credit score.

I've never owned anything nice, I have an older car which I dont mind but would love something newer and abit fancier.

I feel like our house isn't my house. I haven't done anything in the way of success to get it.

I know a lot of people who have worked part time in shops and cafes and all have brand new cars, always shopping, always buying designer brands.

I dont know how they manage it?! Im so jealous that I dont own anything of much value.

I worked so so hard to qualify and make a career yet that dowsnt even seem to pay as well as it should (probably due to small area I live in) but I still worked incredibly hard, I was so determined after doing so shit in school. My family were very proud but I still feel like I'm letting everybody down and am getting nowhere in life.

I sound like a materialistic brat. But I thiught that if i worked hard for a good career I would be able to afford a few nicer things.

How can I stop dwelling on what I dont have and remember what I do have. I have to really pep talk myself about what fantastic family, DP and friends I have, that I have a roof over my head and have the luxury of driving. But I still end up feeling like I've got nothing.

Is it normal to feel like way?

You are only 22, you have done amazingly so far! Do you expect to get married to your DP? Maybe then you will feel more like you co-own the house rather than just paying rent. You said you haven't got a great credit score, probably because you were trying to live a lifestyle closer to your friends, but it's likely that if they don't have any more income than you, they may well be in debt which is a bad place to be. Can you do anything to improve your credit score so that you can be added to the mortgage etc in a few years, so you have something clear to work towards?

@beemybaby its slowly improving now I've realised I cant live how I was.

I think once I've cleared my debt I will feel better as I will have more disposable income.

I think I was niave in thinking I would be able to live a nicer life if I got a great career. I realise now that living in such a secluded area the salaries are much lower and doesnt match up with the price of general living.

Everything is soooo expensive now!

Hahah everything is expensive everywhere !
Blimey you're only 22 and you've achieved more than many ten years older than you believe me . You've done really well.. Just try and define what success means to you ..work out the feelings behind that ..and don't compare yourself to others too often (we all do it tho !) ..you sound great ..well done !

You are 22 and have a house. You’re already doing far better than me!! (Am 24 in a few months).
You also don’t know exactly what your friends are doing. They could easily be using payday loans or be in debt to afford their fancy cars and designer gear.

Honestly op, the world is your oyster at 22

Why do you have so much debt at 22? Is it a student loan? How much is it?

You're 22!

Stuff is not what you need right now. It's just dead weight. Do stuff, travel, have fun etc.

Nobody lay on their death bed wishing they'd had a posher handbag or a nicer car.