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Urgent advice needed

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Km3682 · 16/04/2019 20:17

Sorry for the long post but can anyone offer any advice? I was with my ex partner for 5 years. He cheated, controlled me, treated me awfully but nevertheless was always a good dad. I left him June last year, we was living with my ex’s mother at the time and I had to leave because they was pretty much bullying me. I was homeless for 3 months and slept on my friends couch until I got the keys for our new home. The whole duration of this break up he has brainwashed our son (5 years old) he spends 4 nights with me and 3 nights with his dad. My son cries when he comes to me and his dad has always said how much of a bad mother I am. I try everything I can to make him happy but he won’t drop wanting to live with his dad more. Which I don’t want, the things he comes home and tells me his dad has said to him are just awful. He’s not aloud to speak about me, his dad has said to him he’s really sad when he comes to my house which I’m certain is emotional blackmail. Lots has happened but anyway, I’ve got to attend court in a week because my ex wants full custody. Any advice for a mum who is petrified of loosing her son :(

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BeeMyBaby · 17/04/2019 11:29

This is pretty basic, but have you talked to your son about what would improve your time spent together? Playing with him more, doing crafts etc, taking his mind off whatever is bothering him?

Happyspud · 17/04/2019 11:32

Do you have a good solicitor? That is what you need for court.

Can you also attend the freedom program? He’s still controlling you through your son. It’s awful and a slow road but I think you need help to both cope with this and learn how to handle it.

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