Anyone else hate having other kids in the house?!

[EanieMeanie]

I feel so mean but I just dread my DC asking, ‘Mum, can we come in for a bit?’ and bringing the local children in. They have a ‘den’ to use but even so... I don’t know why it bugs me so much but it just does! Perhaps the fact i’m a secondary teacher locally and so know some of them in that capacity too has something to do with it. I’m off and like to slob in my scruffs with no bra and there might be piles of underwear lying around just having come out of the washing machine/waiting to go in...! And then they might want a drink or food and i’ll Have to get up off the sofa and sort it!

Lighthearted(ish!) and I usually say yes through gritted teeth but am i the only one who dreads this request?

I love it. Small village here and each of my 3 has at least one friend in the village and they are in and out of each other's houses, never any bother.

I've let my older kids have friends in a few times and it always annoyed the shit out of me. On several occasions 3 different friends (ages 6-12) have made comments about the place being messy (just back from holiday and suitcases open everywhere whilst knee deep in laundry piles on one occasion, another while I was clearing out the kitchen cupboards, another where I was in the middle of a massive clear out etc etc) or their house being tidier/nicer/they have a better sofa etc etc. Honestly I thought kids didn't give a shit about how the house looks but now that I realise they do, then I feel uncomfortable about letting anyone in. We do generally have a messy house but nothing terrible!

Now that it's only DD at an age where she might have friends around I do feel that there is less day to day mess (now that the older 2 are teens) but still probably too worried they'd say something that I just don't initiate play dates. Doesn't help that our house is tiny so not many places to let them play in.

Oh and also the one kid who would always open drawers and cupboards and ask why I kept those things in there/why i didn't bin letters etc etc. Really nosy and would walk upstairs even though I'd said a million times they were confined to the kitchen/hallway areas. Or the one who did a poo and wiped it on the wall.

I don't like it either, dd is 6 and loves having friends round but instead of them occupying each other they seem to get more excitable, dd acts like a totally different child and becomes a show off who seems to find it funny to ignore me and with her younger sibling aged 4 wanting to join in it ends up being a really stressful couple of hours.

They do it at our caravan too, they make friends and seem to all end up in our caravan, last year they made 2 friends who called for them at 7am and were still sat with us at 10pm!!