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Why does my employer want to do this?

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BloggersNetwork · 16/04/2019 10:04

I have NC because this can be outing
I perform a support role in a large school, I have been there 6 years, 3 in my latest role. The senior lady in my department is one of those 'untouchables' who became unbearable for me to work with. Constant picking of my work, put downs in front of other staff, constantly interrupting my conversations, deciding every single aspect of our shared office, down to whether I was allowed to open a window, put the heating on, even open the blinds, frequently being forced to work in total darkness, questioning absolutely everything to the point I started purchasing my own stationary... the list is endless. She is not my line manager; I discussed this with my line manager and she seemed supportive, but probably powerless to do anything about it. The head of the department happens to be the senior lady's best friend, so her behaviour was never put into question; I had no support. Eventually I managed to move to a different space and my working day got so much better. Cue to my performance appraisal, my line manager has written a sentence to the effect of 'has established strong positive working relationship with all members of staff but one relationship remains challenging'. I don't want to sign this bit because I feel it puts me under a bad light when I suffered for months, plus I doubt the other person has this written down on their appraisal. Can I refuse to sign this?

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Bluntness100 · 16/04/2019 10:24

You can, but it's not incorrect so I wonder why you would? It's. Factual statement and possibly you bear some responsibility here, especially if other colleagues don't have the same issues to the same extent.

Cherrysoup · 16/04/2019 10:31

Ask her to remove it. Remind her of the most batshit parts- working in darkness? Bonkers. It isn't necessary to mention a challenging relationship unless it's one of your performance management targets.

S1naidSucks · 16/04/2019 10:37

You could ask her to either remove it or clarify in writing WHY this relationship is difficult, including the issues you’ve had with that staff member, such as working in darkness. I guarantee she’ll choose the first option.

MT2017 · 16/04/2019 11:02

I would definitely challenge it in writing as this could be used against you in terms of your relationships with others.

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