I don't know how the fuck I'm doing it

[marypoppins10]

2 DC, 10 month old is being an absolute nightmare during the night lately and I'm on night 3 of absolutely no sleep.
I have no support and I'm slowly starting to crack, I know it's not her fault but I'm so bloody exhausted. I feel like I'm losing my mind ☹️

Anyone awake?

I’m awake. Second night feed for 4 weeks old DD and she has just been put back down but isn’t settling.

Have you tried cosleeping? My DS at 10 months was a nightmare so he slept in our bed until 18 months when he was ready to sleep by himself.

Yep I've tried and she just won't lay down, she doesn't want a bottle, doesn't want to be held, doesn't want a dummy

Is she just ‘awake’ OP?
I am very versed in baby shenanigans at nIght!
And I now live overseas so I’m awake!

What is she doing? Crying? Fussing?

Make it very boring for her. Don't interact at all or maintain eye contact. Occasional pats or "It's bedtime" to reassure, but if she's not getting anything from you then there is less point to being awake.

Im awake. 2 yr old has tonsilitus and 5.month old is teething so I've been up all.night. when one falls asleep the other one wakes. Hppe you get sleep soon.

Bless you.
You’re doing great. No real advice but don’t put any pressure on yourself to do stuff when you’re this knackered - the bare minimum is enough

Make it very boring for her. Don't interact at all or maintain eye contact. Occasional pats or "It's bedtime" to reassure, but if she's not getting anything from you then there is less point to being awake

Good advice. My late mother told me not to put the light on in the room or talk to the baby, nothing but the breast and then put them back to bed. It worked for me. I just had a faint night light in the hall. Never changed them either. Coming think about it my babies were probably a bit worried who their 'night nurse' actually was. lol. I remember my mum telling me if I put lights on and talked to them then the baby might look forward to having a play or visit from mum in the middle of the night. My oldest is 45 now btw.

Soon as they stirred I'd feed them silently I don't think either one of us woke fully. She also told me never to feed them in my bed in case I fell back asleep and rolled on them.

My big problem was putting them to bed at bedtime.

If shes safe and not screaming try and go to sleep so she sees what nighttime is for. You don't have to be awake every minute she is and if she screams she'll wake you.
I got into a stoopid habit of sitting on my bed waiting for mine to go back to sleep, they just took that as 'mums up'

There is absolutely nothing worse than a small person who is "awake" at night time - all alert and is awake for no reason aside from being awake. I know it feels hopeless. My mum is brilliant at dealing with "awake" children. She pretends to fall asleep veeeerrry slowly so that it's feasible and they believe it. Then small person copies and falls asleep. Watching her is entrancing. She did it to my nearly 3 year old once. She'd had an early start and was being a monster and very much needed a nap. Screamed the place down when I tried but my mum sat there and very slowly started pretending to go to sleep and then dd followed suit. My problem is that if I close my eyes I actually fall asleep.