Fucking Cancer

[Verastsnhope]

A woman I love ( in law ) woke up ONE DAY 5 weeks ago, previously having been perfectly healthy, and couldn’t get up. Cancer. Huge tumour on her spine. They’ve cut most of it out, but she’s paralysed. Chemotherapy is making her waste away. She’s confused now and for some reason, embarrassed and wants barely anyone to know. I don’t know why I’m posting really. I just don’t get it. She has given care to so many others. Yet is refusing it now I’ve said I’ll shave my head with her. I love her. She has been beautiful to me. She can’t go home again but won’t entertain it. I’ve been through this, my father died young ( 50 ) but this is crippling me. She won’t let me do ANYTHING. Can anyone explain this? Thank you

I'm so sorry x

It can’t be explained, it’s just a terribly tragic situation. Sorry your friend is going through this and how you’re feeling.

In the kindest possible way, are you absolutely sure she wants you to shave your head with her? I world worry that that begins to put the focus on you rather than her. She might hi want you to do anything other than be (as) normal (as possible) with her.

Thank you for answering. She laughed and said she would like it as she wouldn’t feel as odd 😂 it’s the secret side I’m struggling with. There are so many people who understand but she seems to want to just...fade. I guess I’m being selfish. She is truly a beautiful human being. For her life to end quietly in hospital just angers me for some reason. Irrational I know.