My husband has never grown up or been around that many kids and admits that he struggles with the kids (how messy they are, don't listen and are just a bit silly) so he's always telling them off. I'm the opposite I adore kids, let them be silly and make a mess as long as we tidy up after, are kind to each other and feel comfortable in their home. My husband and I often differ on how to parent, I feel like he would want the kids to have an attitude like they're in the army and never put a foot wrong and he thinks I'm too soft. One thing however that upsets me is how he shouts and constantly scares the kids when doing so. I u defat and that kids should be told off when they've been naughty or whatever but I think he could do it in a much nicer way than scaring the life out of them and make them really upset everytime. My son who is 5 says they daddy scares him and I really don't want that to be the case. I tell them off, plenty, but they never get upset they're always just sorry that they've disappointed me. I've ran out of ideas of how to stop my husband from flying off the handle at them over silly little things. Any help or advice would be massively appreciated. I want our kids to grow up in a loving, warm, friendly home and I fear they won't look back and think that.