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If you won the lottery, would you divorce?

99 replies

Friedeggsandcustard · 13/04/2019 18:56

I was reading about the UKs biggest ever lottery winners who have just announced they have split up. It got me thinking - how many of us would choose to stay with their partner if money was no object?

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hsegfiugseskufh · 13/04/2019 19:26

Nope absolutely not! If anything we'd able to spend more time together

MamaRaisingBoys · 13/04/2019 19:28

No, but like a pp we have very different ideas on what we’d do with the money, so it may pull us apart anyway

RomanyQueen1 · 13/04/2019 19:32

No, why be with someone if you feel like this?
We have never argued over money we usually come to a compromise if we differ. With a lot of money like this we could both be happy doing what we want.

Millie2013 · 13/04/2019 19:33

We’d probably get married instead Grin

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Friedeggsandcustard · 13/04/2019 19:35

I didn’t mean that I’d stay with someone for their money - more that having loads of money might make it easier to live separate lives. Most people need two incomes to maintain their standard of living... and lots of people don’t have the means to maintain two equally nice homes as the one they currently share?

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JustHereForThePooStoriesFella · 13/04/2019 19:36

Nope. Wouldn’t swap my husband for any amount of money. He’s lovely.

Disfordarkchocolate · 13/04/2019 19:36

No, we'd be able to do more together, never been bored with him.

Hiddenaspie1973 · 13/04/2019 19:37

We'd consciously uncouple. Lived in sin 23 years. He won't marry me.

BertieBotts · 13/04/2019 19:40

No way! Can't believe so many saying yes Shock

Curious as to why it is "everything that's wrong with mumsnet" though Confused

VictoriaBun · 13/04/2019 19:41

Lots of couples have problems once they retire. It is obviously because you are spending much more time together.
If you come into shit loads of money and decide not to work, you'd have to find things to do without each other at least a few times a week so that you have something to talk about. Also a few days (weeks) of separate holidays !

TwinsTrollsAndHunz · 13/04/2019 19:42

No

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 13/04/2019 19:47

Possibly. If I'm completely honest, a large part of our relationship is mutual dependance.
For earning power, childcare, housework etc. Just generally keeping ourselves going.
If we didn't have that level of practical need, who knows what we would do.

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 13/04/2019 19:50

Curious as to why it is "everything that's wrong with mumsnet" though confused

Me too Bertie! Provacative questions in an anonymous environment is what's rightwith Mumsnet afaik

Frogbull · 13/04/2019 19:50

No. Our marriage isn't perfect, but the main thing that causes stress is his job and the hours he works. If he wasn't doing that, I think we'd be much happier.

peachgreen · 13/04/2019 19:51

No way. The fact that lots of lottery winners do divorce puts me off winning it!

Rockbird · 13/04/2019 19:54

No way. It would free us up more to do things together although neither of us would want to give up work altogether.

What it might do though is give us a big enough house and the confidence to have our own separate bedrooms. We have a great relationship but we don't sleep well together, both of us are extremely light sleepers and 21 years hasn't changed that at all. We could do with our own spaces just to sleep!

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 13/04/2019 19:54

Re take our vows somewhere.

Tavannach · 13/04/2019 19:58

No way, but I'd send him on a training course about how to pair socks.

AcrossthePond55 · 13/04/2019 19:59

No. But I'd want to build a 'his and hers' house. Like two houses with a connecting door.

We're retired and as much as I love him there are time I just want to be alone. I'm sure he feels the same way. Plus he's a 'clutter bug' and I like clean empty table tops and counters

PodgeBod · 13/04/2019 20:00

I wouldn't now but we went through a really bad stage and I remember crying to my mum that I wanted to leave him but couldn't afford to. So if I had won in the middle of that happening, we definitely would have split.

ThatDeadlyJetty · 13/04/2019 20:03

Surely it's that winning a huge amount of money brings its own stresses and temptations?

That, plus the normal risk of splitting up, and the increased £££ meaning that slitting is more affordable.

HoldMyGirl · 13/04/2019 20:03

No, but I'd buy my own holiday home, just for me to escape to every now and then

Morticiaismymumgoal · 13/04/2019 20:10

Probably. It seems to happen to so many winners that the money just causes them misery. I watched something years ago about lottery winners and how miserable they ended up. Like the bloke who just wanted to carry on with his normal life running his music shop but he had to close it because it was just filled with people begging. I'd imagine it causes lots of temptation which mightn't have been there before. Obviously lots of people say they wouldn't announce it but that's the only way to get help and guidance. My dad and aunt had a lot of money very badly mismanaged by a financial advisor. The woman from one couple I remember recently ran off with the gardener iirc, then the husband went off with another woman but she used him and left him and now he's living very reclusively.
A mil or so's a good amount I think- more changes people.

MotherOfTheNoise · 13/04/2019 20:13

Never. We have a similar idea of what we'd do with the money and it would grant us opportunities to spend more time together which we both want. It would also grant us financial security which is the only worry we have currently.

MrsMozartMkII · 13/04/2019 20:20

Nope.

He doesn't get off that easily Grin

Plus, I love the old sod.